Best Decision Ever Made

I was called by a local magazine the other day and while talking to the writer, she mentioned she was writing a column on - What was the best decision, or recent change you have made? Wow at 53 that is a difficult question to answer. After going thru so many stages of my life, how can you answer just one thing? There are so many things I have done that were the best decision. There are the classics; went to college, made career decisions, got married, had a child, moved, etc. How do you say what was best? Of course I don't want to downplay the most important people in my life and they not think everything I do concerning them is not important.

But at this point in my life, my decisions, I have to be honest, center more around me. I feel like I have given all I have to give to the others in my life. How many nights did I stay up late after everyone was asleep to pursue a little hobby etc? How many times did I go with out, either a item, event or luxury, so others could have? Sound familiar as a mother? I do not regret a thing, but I feel like now is my time, and I guess that is the best decision I have made, to put me first. And in many ways I don't, because I do so many things that others are still reaping a benefit from me and my work, but at least my days and nights are planned around what I want to do. And with each passing day there is less and and less guilt about putting me first. What a great feeling.

So at this time, starting the Bikinis and Bifocals business was my best decision or change. It was my dream and everything that evolves around it is what I want to do. How fun. My calendar is so full and it is 99% things I want to do, not events or things I have to do for someone else!

I have to admit, I can see more and more why many women make major career changes, or get divorced at this stage in life. The 50's are the greatest, it is freedom. It is the stage where decisions can be made for you, and the hell with everyone else. I can truly see why women at this stage stay the heck with a marriage that does not give them what they want. Is it that this age is the ultimate stage of freedom? Freedom from being responsible for others, freedom from guilt and the freedom to do what you want to do. Some women may not understand how I feel, but I think there are many out there that do.

Follow your dreams, it is never too late.