Enjoy Being Alone - Hooray for an empty nest!

I came across an article the other day about empty Nester's and all their problems. I thought how sad, that there are women who have depended on someone else for all their life's purpose and never put anything into their own future.

Don't get me wrong. I believe in doing all we can for our children. But I also believe and have believed that I deserve a life and time too. That is why when my last one graduated from high school and went off to college I was sad that she had grown up and all those childhood events were over, but happy for her and her new life as well as happy for me and my new life! I think an empty nest is a great gift for all our hard work.

I can't image not having any type of life's purpose other than caring for your children. If you raise them right they should be living without a majority of your help well before they go off to college. After all prior to that they are driving, making some major decisions or choices without you looking over their shoulder, etc. So why are these women so lost when they leave for college?

I have told my daughter many times, "don't depend on someone else to make you happy. You be happy and others will fall into your life". The media, society, schools make women feel like they must depend on others for their happiness. That is all wrong. Why not be happy with yourself and be happy spending time with yourself alone. If you have that type life, you won't have a problem with the empty nest.

Sure I was sad when my daughter left, but happy that she was moving on to this next step and not depending on me. In a few months she showed me she could handle most things and that gave me even more freedom and enjoyment.

I now love having the freedom to not go home right after work, or should I say rush home right after work. I can make as many stops, shop, etc and I don't even have to tell anyone. Even when my husband is home, he is another one who is independant, so he does not depend on me at a certain hour etc.

After 50 life has really gotten great for me. This is a great time of life to do so many things I want to do. It comes with so many rewards and so many opportunties. I found it so sad that someone else was writing another article about the poor empty nesters. Oh brother, they should be talking to and writing about happy, well adjusted empty nesters. Now that I reflect on this, it is just another reason and meaning of purpose I have for http://www.bikinisandbifocals.com/ What a way to show women we have so much to do and live for. Connect with women and make a difference in your life.

Empty nester! That's right and loving it.