My Independant Daughter

As a mother I have had many challenges and worries while raising my daughter. A woman who served as a mentor to me once said that the best thing we can do for our children is teach them to be independent. Well I did succeed on that level. My daughter is very independent.

But with that comes a price. She ever calls, she never emails. And as her mother, I don't want to pry in her life, but I would like to know what is going on in her life.

I am grateful she deals with her problems and once in a while tells me about them later, but not very often. She lives a very steady, responsible life for a very young person. But, hey, moms want to help once in a while. She has grown up to be a very private person. Me, I am an open book. Ask me about my life, I will tell you.

I see and hear about so many people who are still taking care of their adult children. Some many years older than my daughter. That is so sad. Those who are not raised to take care of themselves will just turn out to be a burden on the parent, society, and an employer someday etc.

Tough love. That is tough. Pushing a child out to do something and making them stand behind what they promise is important. I have to say, I am very proud of my daughter, whatever she is doing, although she has not called me to tell me about it! I believe in her and she knows that. Believing in them, and their mistakes is important.

Just one thing, to my daughter, if you read this, phone home!