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New Year, New Outlook

2012-01-04T07:43:00.000-08:00

Wow the holidays are over and here I am at the new year! Time flies. And like they say, the older you get the faster it goes! And how true. So, if time does fly by the best I can do is make the most of our time.

With the New Year I plan to have a New Outlook. Most of what I have seen lately has been from a positive attitude aspect. I vow to continue with such an attitude! It seems to me the only way to go.

A New Year and New Outlook is not a new concept, but a great way to start the year. An attitude of gratitude, be thankful for what you have and being positive is a great way to live.

One of the many reason I love visiting our home on the lake is we do not have cable TV!! Pretty primative! But one of the many great things about this is we don't spend a great deal of our time in front of the TV and all the negative news. I absolutely do not miss it! After returning from the lake this past week the fact that the negative press was missing from my life and the positive impact it had really came to my attention. Thus another reason for emphasizing the positive in life and focusing on a new way of thinking and approaching life.

Happy New Year. When we are given something new, we are given something with a lot of potential. It is up to us how we use that something new. Take the new year and make it the best. Have a great day.

Baby Boomer Women, we love lingerie too!

2011-02-14T05:24:00.000-08:00

Baby boomer women so often are portrayed as old, frumpy women. Well, NOT. I do not accept that as a label for my friends and me. We are hot, fun women! Bikinis and Bifocals women! And we love lingerie just as well as the thin hot young models do.

It troubles me when the ads etc are only for young women. We love sexy items too you know. As well as our husbands!! I loved the line in the move Eat, Pray Love, when Julie Robert’s character, Liz, says to her friend (who was worried about gaining weight and her boyfriend’s reaction) “When a man is with a naked women he does not see any flaws, he just sees that he is in room with a naked woman!” How true, I loved that line and the simple truth behind it.

So this Valentine ’s Day wear the lingerie, have fun. Hey, my husband didn’t even notice a new chair in the family room for two days; I know he won’t notice a few pounds! Happy Valentine’s day.

Insomnia - Is this another issue baby boomer women are expect to just accept?

2011-02-09T07:20:00.000-08:00

Insomnia is not one of the rewards I was expecting as I entered this next phase of life as a baby boomer woman!

Lack of sleep all starts when you start a family. (Well actually it started before that. College and as a young professional it was work, nap, go out at night, sleep a little, work …. But that is not the point here).

As mothers we rarely have a sound night’s sleep while raising our children. We sleep light in order to hear our babies. As they grew they woke us up, when they got their driver’s license we stayed up worrying, ... Get the point?

Now the children are all grown and gone and we can now enjoy a night of sleep. But wait a minute! No mentioned to me, now as a woman in her 50’s, I get to enjoy Insomnia! A friend mentioned just yesterday that her doctor said “it is just part of aging”. She asked those of us who were there, “is that true? Is this something we just have to accept? “

Of course we all had various comments, but I have to admit, I have thought about her question and it was the reason for this blog.

Is this something we just have to accept? So many other aspects of our health and life we haven’t “just accepted”. So why should this be any different? It is so disturbing that there are so many doctors out there that use that comment as a reason or explanation. Check out local health clinics and seminars such as my friend's monthly sessions at Louisville Pharmacy.

I was searching through Google images for something to symbolize insomnia for my blog and other items and found that most of the women models were shown in bed, looking at a clock that said 5 or 6 a.m. Heck, if I sleep till 5 or 6 a.m. I had a great night’s sleep! The models and photographers surely are not over 45!

What have you found that works, doesn’t work? Please share with us at my Insomnia Friends Group in the Community Section on Bikinis and Bifocals.com.

Sweet Dreams

A Boomer Woman Who Knows About Cruising!

2011-01-20T14:09:00.000-08:00

A favorite boomer woman who knows all about "cruising" is my friend Kathy Collins. Kathy is an agent with the company Cruise Planners. And let me tell you, she knows the ins and outs of cruising.

Boomer women love to travel and we are always looking for fun and wonderful places to visit. Gone are the vacations planned around our children and husbands. We are traveling for our enjoyment now! If the husband or significant other is included all the better, but if they are not interested, it is not stopping us!!!

Kathy will be celebrating her 7th year with the Cruise Planners franchise this year. Working with an agent with this amount of experience is a great way to go. Plus with someone at her level in the company, she can offer some great perks etc for your cruise experience. In fact, Kathy just passed on to me, that January through March is probably the best time to book due to so many specials offered during this period.

Bikinis and Bifocals worked with her to put together a group cruise and it was great fun! In fact, putting together a trip for small to large groups of women is something she loves to do. Kathy is a warm/friendly person and I think you will enjoy working with her. Never cruised before or have questions? Check out the various aspects of her website and get that cruising feeling today!

I have to say, a cruise is one of the most relaxing vacations I have enjoyed. And Kathy was a help in making it all seem easy. Happy Cruising!

Two Resolutions for the New Year!

2011-01-03T08:43:00.000-08:00

The only two resolutions I plan to make for the new year are to live healthier and spend more time with friends.

As we age, it is more and more important that we live healthier. With rising cost on health care, etc, it is even more important to live healthier. I don’t know about you, but I would much rather spend my money on entertainment or new clothes than on expensive prescriptions and other medical needs. I get really frustrated with some of my friends and family that do the opposite. In fact, check out your insurance or company policy on preventive health. My health insurance is offering a health assessment tool that awards you a gift card for completing the assessment! Wow, making money and staying healthy, now that is a thought. If your employer or insurance company does not offer any help or initiatives, check out sites like RealAge. Found others? Share with the Bikinis and Bifocals Community.

Spending more time with friends is also very important for our health. At least I think so. I plan to make more time for my friends and less time for cleaning the house! We started the year off yesterday right – friends over for lunch and family over for dinner. Not that I will do that on a regular basis, but it is so great to see friends over the holidays, why not make an effort to do more throughout the year. I think it is sad at the end of visits we say, we need to get together more, and then the year slips away. Perhaps I will just send out random invites to groups of women for lunch, dinner or other random activity throughout the month. Not only is it better for your health to have others to connect with, it is a great source of information! I get the best advice from my girlfriends.

Here’s to a happy and healthier year!

Christmas Gift Suggestions!

2010-12-01T09:03:00.000-08:00

Every year my husband asks, “What do you want for Christmas?” or “What can I get you for Christmas?” There are times when this really upsets me. What does he mean? I am constantly saying, “I wish I had ……” I guess he just does not listen. Especially when I say I wish I had something that is very expensive. Ha, selective listening I think.

Or the one statement I just love is when he says “Christmas just snuck up on me this year” What?? It is the same day every year since I can remember, December 25th, right? Men are so funny.

But when it comes to gift suggestions and buying for your wife, the story I love is a story a friend told us once. He said to avoid making a mistake in purchasing something for his wife for Christmas one year, he asked her make him a list of things she wanted.

Our friend said, that a few days later she presented him with her list. He told my husband, the number one thing on her list was - 1. NO lingerie! Wow was that a blow. She knew him well, as most men, it seems this is the first thing on their list to purchase! Heck, don’t they know most of the stuff we have is in like new condition!!! Usually the main reason we need more is the old stuff no longer fits, not worn out!!!

In thinking about all this, I thought, you know, if he asks me to make up a list I think I will categorize my gift suggestions. My list would be like this:

Sweetheart, here are some suggestions for Christmas gifts for me. For your convenience I have broken them down into categories. Love you

Category 1) Gifts in this category are things you should purchase if you really want to make me happy!
Category 2) Things in this category will not only make me happy, but will result in Sex and more sex. Win/Win for both of us, don’t look at the price tag.
Category 3) Buy me something in this category and this impersonal and you may never get sex again.
Category 4) These are things the kids can get me, not my husband!

Also, I think I will add a footnote for Categories and 1 and 2. If items are purchased within these categories, an item of lingerie may also be purchased!

My husband is a very generous loving man. I think his hesitation on purchasing gifts is that he wants to please me. Well, I think my categorization method above will be a big help and guide for him to follow! Happy Holidays!

Wow talk about motivation!

2010-11-17T12:46:00.001-08:00

Well it is Wednesday and I started my day with Jazzercise class. I just love starting my day this way. I try to do this at least 2-3 times a week.

Today, while I was in the room adjacent to the workout room, I could hear the instructor calling the class to order and sharing a few announcements. As she concluded she said, "I just want to let you all know I just found out I am pregnant and I may modify a few of the exercises for me as I progress." Of course all the women were congratulating her etc, and some asked if she would quit teaching the class. She said, "Oh, no, I will do this up to delivery if possible."

Wow, as we were working out today and I got tired or wanted to slow things up a bit, I thought, hey, she's pregnant and running circles around us, the least I can do is keep up!!

Those that know me, know I can be very competitive. Every once in a while I will say, oh I am or I can be competitive, and my friends or family will say "No kidding, I never knew." Being quite sarcastic in their tone, they know me well. So today I found myself pushing to keep up with this young pregnant woman. I'll be darn, if she can do it, my old butt should be able to keep up!

So, now each day when this girl, or I should say woman, is instructing, I have new motivation to keep up with her. If she can do, so can I! Congratulations to her and her healthy lifestyle and her wonderful news! And thanks for some new motivation in class!

I always hope for a line at the polls!

2010-10-28T05:32:00.000-07:00

In the last presidential election I was standing in line to vote and the man in front of me said something like, "can you believe this line." I looked at him and said, "I don't know about you, but I am glad there is a line. There should always be a line to vote in this country. When no one comes out to vote it is a shame."

Of course he just looked at me and turned around. Well, what did he expect me to say, "I wish there was no line, I don't want to stand here???" People in this country want everything to be quick and easy. But, you know what, when it comes to showing what we believe and what we want, you may have to stand in line and be inconvenienced. Is that too much to ask?

If you have to change your routine next Tuesday then explain it to those involved. Such as your children, so that they know this is important to you. Do you have to take them to school a little earlier so you can make it to the polls and then to work? Explain that to them and how important it is to exercise this right. Children remember the crazyiest things, and hopefully they will remember the important things you do and represent.

In years past, when the opportunity was there, my husband and I always took our daughter with us to vote. We wanted her to see that voting was important. When she became eligible to vote, she immediately registered, without prompting from mom and dad. In the last presidential election I had my granddaughter with me. After that man made the comment to me about the long line, I turned to my granddaughter and explained to her how important it was to vote. She being only 6 at the time, I'm not sure how much of an impression it made. But I could tell by the look on her face she knew Nana was serious about something!

Every election is important. Unfortunately the crazy TV ads we have to endure sure make it seem otherwise. If you are not a registered voter and cannot vote in this upcoming election, then make it a priority to register soon, it is a very simple process. If you are a registered voter, make arrangements to VOTE next Tuesday.

We are so blessed in this country to have the rights we have and we need to exercise those rights and make known what we want and expect. Vote next Tuesday for the candidates of your choice. God Bless America.

The Power of Hope, Belief, Faith, whatever you name it!

2010-10-13T04:13:00.000-07:00

I catch a few minutes of the news every morning. Some mornings it is very brief because it seems to be the same items over and over and those items are so negative. So often I wonder why I even bother to turn on the the TV.

But today is great! The same news items is popping up on every channel - the rescue of the miners in Chile! How wonderful to see this "good news" story.

If this is not a true testament of positive thinking and belief that the best will happen, I don't know what is! So many times we want to give up and throw in the towel when victory is just around the corner. The news team on one station said that the families would not leave that site while the miners were still missing because they were afraid the rescue/search team would give up if no one was around to keep the search and momentum alive.

Cheers and well wishes for the families for keeping the faith and believing that their family members were still alive. It took several days, but they were found and now they are all coming up to the top, ahead of time!

The strength of the power of positive thinking is and can be overwhelming. So many people do not want to buy into the power of positive thought because they want proof before they will believe. Well here is the proof! I once attended a seminar by the writer Michael Losier and he touched on the aspect of "proof". He suggested, as you start your journey with positive thought and belief, be sure to record any "results" that come from this new way of living. Even if it is small, these positive occurrences will manifest themselves in your life more and more as your power of belief grows.

The next step? Gratitude I am sure. Each day is reason to be grateful for all we have. Today is a great day to be grateful for the recovery of these miners and their life ahead. Have a great day and keep the faith in all good things for you and those in your life.

Big or Small, Save them All!

2010-10-09T12:07:00.000-07:00

Today was the Komen Race for the Cure here in Louisville, Kentucky. Each year I help my friends with the registration booth. This year the weather was perfect and the turnout was unbelievable.

I love to see all the women and men who support this event. There are, of course, the women fighting breast cancer, but it is so inspiring to see all the people who come out to support the women they love. The turnout always includes those who get very creative with their dress to show their love and show support to the the women in their lives.

So many of those who turn out have never even participated in an organized walk or race, but this event brings them all out. It is a great event where you don't have to be a runner, or very athletic. All you need is the desire to show others you care and are there for support.

My mom was recently diagnosed with breast cancer and came through the surgery etc with flying colors. My mom is awesome and a fighter. I have cousins, aunts and friends who are all fighting this disease at various stages, but keep a positive outlook towards life and winning this fight.

Each year as I work this event and see all these women, I am so grateful for those who support the cause, but pray that some day we won't need this event. That some day we will beat this and get rid of this disease that is invading so many lives. After all, isn't that what it is all about? Some day we will have a day that celebrates the fact that we beat this and are celebrating it's decline.

Take care of yourself, get your annual checkup/mammogram and encourage other women to do the same. If you have questions, websites such as Breastcancer.org, Komen.org and National Breast Cancer.org are just a few that are a great start.

Big or small, let's save them all!

The product may be "hard" but shopping at Granite Outlet sure isn't!

2010-10-05T06:53:00.001-07:00

I don't know about you, but shopping for clothing, home accessories etc is so easy and natural for me. In fact, I do this with such ease, and save money at the same time. But when I have to move over to items that are more technical in nature such as plumbing, appliances, etc, I just find it a task I do not like and far too much work.

Over the past year we have started doing some remodeling in our home. Small projects at a time, but still, each takes a great deal of time. We now have our master bathroom completely redone and I am so glad it is finished. But I have to admit I did learn some things. But still not as fun as learning about new fashions!!!

Our next project is the kitchen. I have really been putting this off, because I view this one as much to difficult or "hard". The one thing I really want to do is replace my countertops with the much desired "granite" countertops you see in all the showrooms.

Why I have viewed this next project with such dread, and say it is "hard" is, to be honest, I greatly needed to educate myself as to where to start or what to look for when shopping for granite. At least, I didn't know where to start until I met with Susan Rider, owner of Granite Outlet in Radcliff, Kentucky.

I don't know about your experiences, but I have found many salemen can be rather condensending or short when you are trying to learn about a product. But not the ladies at Granite Outlet. Granite Outlet is a family owned business. The Granite Girls consist of the Mom (Susan) and two daughters, (Julie and Samantha). The Granite Girls and a nephew (Jacob) focus on customer service and design.

I met Susan through a networking group and set up an appointment to met with her to learn more about her, her business and the product. I walked away from our meeting knowing a great deal about granite and better prepared to make some wise decisions on my future purchase.

I liked the way she took her time to educate me on granite and the different stones that are now available for kitchen countertops. They not only carry granite but they also carry many other stones and tiles for kitchens, baths, etc.

In working with Granite Outlet, I provided them the deminsions of my room requirements and received a detailed job quote within one day. Another aspect that impressed me, was in my conversations with Susan I soon realized that quality work was very important to her company. This is something that is very important to me and my husband as well. We like working with a company that views each job as an individual, rather than a number in a computer data base. That is why more and more I do business with small businesses such as Granite Outlet . They made a subject I viewed as "hard" into one that was, to be honest, quite easy. Check them out today, I think you will be pleasantly surprised by not only the service but the price as well!

Thanks ladies. Have a great day!

The lesson not only our children should learn but the country as well!

2010-08-06T09:42:00.000-07:00

I really don't want this blog to be about politics, but at this point I just need to say something. And what I have to say falls back on a conversation I had with a woman who was my mentor 25 years ago!!!

I was a young intern in an office and worked for the most amazing woman. She did not have a degree, but her knowledge was wide and deep. One day when talking about family and children, she said, I believe we only owe our children two things - 1) an education and 2) teach them how to take care of themselves! As I grew older and had children, many times I reflected back on what she said and thought how wise her words were. In fact, now with all the government bale outs and people wanting something or nothing, these words are wise ones for the citizens of this country as well.

An education is something that is never a waste of time. It is something no one can take away from you and it brings back rewards as long as you live and choose to use it. So many children in this country, as well as the parents, do not value what we offer as free in this country! An education is so valuable. But parents have to participate and children need to be engaged to get something out of it. Although there may not be tuition in the public funded schools, parents and children must invest time, hard work and volunteerism to make the school system work for them. I was a constant volunteer at the schools my children attended and it was worth every minute of my time to give to the school. My volunteerism also taught my children many valuable lessons that I am now seeing in them as they become adults. But sadly so many today just want something for nothing. It just does not work that way.

But I think the biggie of her wisdom was the second thing my mentor said we owed our children - teach them how to take care of themselves. Oh how true. One of the many benefits of this lesson is later in life you will not have adult children depending on you or the government! Simple things like instead of sewing on the button, teach them how to sew on the button! I believe so much of my success was the ability to take care of myself, find a solution to any problem and take responsibility for all my actions. Novel idea today!!! It seems so many in society don't want to take care of themselves, let the government take care of it. So sad. Take care of it yourself. I am not saying there are no sad stories out there, but there are many sad ones that took the adversity in their lives and turned it around.

Just this morning there was a news story of a young black teen, who his mother was diagnosed with cancer, he had been robbed near his home, etc, but through it all he had dreams and he survived and succeeded to the point he graduated at the top of his high school class. He did not set back and say "someone be responsible for me, my success and my happiness", he took control and came out a winner.

A friend of mine wrote on her face book page today, I have to go to work today, there are people on welfare who are depending on me. I know there are many without jobs, but it may be that many will have to take a step back to take a step forward. Twice I took a cut in pay to get in the door of an agency. And it opened more doors and lead to other successes. So many say to me, oh the only way I will change a job is for more money. But it just may not lead to happiness or success. You never know when a new opportunity may come up in a change you make or a chance you take.

So, Mr. President and all the politicians, let's get some programs that will help create jobs, encourage business development and create an attitude among people that encourages hard work, independence and the desire to take care of themselves. Life is too short to wait and expect others to make us happy, etc. Let's go out and make this a better world, be positive and have a great day!

Upcycled vintage jewelry with BLING!

2010-07-21T12:30:00.000-07:00

Two friends of mine have recently started an "Upcycled Vintage Jewelry" business called Bling around Rosies! I love the name and love the jewelry more!

These two women, sisters in fact, are so creative. Their jewelry creations feature vintage costume pieces, combined with upcycled materials, giving them a unique modern touch with a sparkle. The type of bling we baby boomer women just love!

One thing I love about their pieces is they really give me a nostalgic feeling when I look at their pieces. They are so hip yet using some of the pieces our mothers loved to wear and we loved to play with when we were young. Their pieces are somewhat vintage but very hip and sophisticated. These are pieces you might plan an outfit around - or make that special outfit for a special occasion even more stunning!

And not only do you get a unique piece of jewelry, but they also go so far as to name each piece along with a poem or rhyme! They hit it all in regards to originality and fun!

Be sure to check out their items on etsy. If you are not familiar with that site, it enables people to make a living making things and connect those who make handmade items with buyers. Be sure to check it out, but first check out BLING around ROSIES, it is a treat to the eyes. Be sure to treat yourself to this one-of-a-kind wearable art!

Glass Half Full vs Glass Half Empty

2010-06-26T03:42:00.000-07:00

I know it takes two to make a relationship work. And most times the difference in the personalities is what adds spice and makes the relationship keep from getting stale. But sometimes the difference between a person who is always looking at the glass as half empty vs the other person always looking at the glass as half full can really be trying for the person who always looks at most situations as the glass as half full.

Good lord, does everything have to be a challenge?! Life is what it is, take it and go on. For pity sake, I get so tired of those around who always look at things as Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh! Someone near and dear to me is that way. It seems so many times that he has a load on his back from taking everything on as "the next job" or "the next problem". I, well, I just see it as the next item in life.

Don't get me wrong there is a lot of stuff that I don't like or want to do. But looking at everyday tasks as something positive is so much more healthy.

Just like packing up after vacation. Why does that have to be negative? Perhaps it is his way of dealing with the goodbyes and the end. I just look at it as a time to relive the memories in my mind as I pack. Packing after vacation is o.k., especially when it has been fun, why can't packing be fun too? I am just grateful I have something to pack, a place over my head, healthy kids we enjoy, etc. So many people in this world do not have all of this. So even the simple, somewhat boring tasks are not bad for me. The glass if half full, and always ready to be filled with more!!!

We all have those "Ah, Ha" moments in our lives. I am so glad I had mine several years ago. Looking most challenges in life from a positive stand point has really helped me weather some real challenges. I believe it has even helped turned some potentially bad issues into positive or helped them go away.

As I sit here and watch the sun come up over the horizon, I am so grateful for this day and all the work ahead. The only time I really worry about the glass being half empty most days any more is when my wine glass is getting low, now that always seems to be a glass half empty! Cheers to today, all my blessings and being blessed to be born in this great country. Have a half full day!! I know I will.

Instead of complaining be grateful for something.

2010-06-11T05:06:00.000-07:00

I was at a luncheon recently and a member had a wonderful story she shared with the group. It gave me time to pause and realize how many times we do turn something that is potentially negative into something even more negative. But we all have the power to turn something potentially negative into something positive!

She shared with us that a her friend was telling her how she went into a sales office for a fix to a problem that was suppose to take approximately 20 minutes. Well the 20 minutes turned into a wait of over an hour. She said at first she was rather annoyed but then she thought how grateful she was that she was just waiting to get an answer on a mechanical issue instead of waiting for her turn for chemo or waiting for the doctor to come in to discuss her latest cancer treatment and status, or waiting to plan a funeral etc. She then realized she was given a time to reflect on just how blessed she was and all the things she was grateful for.

I sat there and thought, wow, what an awesome woman her friend must be. She was so smart to do that and I was so grateful our friend shared that story with us. So many times I get in a situation that just spirals downward, when only I have the control to ensure it does not.

Taking the time each day to reflect on all our blessings just seems to make those things that are annoying seem so insignificant. Have a wonderful day and a fantastic weekend!

Flowers, Flowers everywhere!

2010-06-10T05:01:00.000-07:00

OMG! That is what so many today put on face book etc to exclaim excitement. Well, Oh my Gosh, I am in awe of a place I visited the other day!

A good friend of mine invited my sister and I to a place in southern Indian as a treat. She is an avid Gardener as well as myself and my sister. She said she really wanted us to see this place and share something she knew we would appreciate.

Well, appreciate is an understatement. We visited a little know place called Cathedral Gardens in Henryville, Indiana. It is a creation of a dozen gardens laced with fountains, statuary and flowers of every variety, color etc. The site and depth of color is just breathtaking.

If you are a Gardener you will love this place and appreciate the work and love that goes into this man's back yard! If you are not a Gardener but love being among the beauty of the outdoors, ponds etc, you will love this place as well. It is a treat to the senses and a great, if not short, escape from the outside world.

The tour is about an hour and a half and they have golf carts that take you around the grounds. There are no restaurants on site but they welcome you to bring a lunch and enjoy your time on the grounds. Or in our case, we did not plan ahead in regards to food, they encouraged us to go get some lunch and come back to enjoy the grounds. Coming back that day was included in the cost of the tour. There are numerous spots throughout the Gardens you can enjoy lunch. Either in a formal garden, by the lakes, or under a tree. It is all there.

Of course I thought there would probably be some water on the property, I had looked over the web site. But I never thought I would witness such a beautiful site as their lake. The water lilies were nothing like anything I have ever seen, in every color imaginable. This was just another one of the breathtaking moments.

There are so many unknown treasures in every one's area. But this is one I am so glad a friend wanted to share with us. It was one of those places that we all said, "the pictures do not do this place justice, being here is an experience we will not forget."

Cathedral Gardens is located at 1314 Hebron Church Road, Henryville, Indiana 812-294-3193. More information can be found on their website. http://www.cathedralgardens.com/. Enjoy! We sure did. And got some great gardening tips too!

"You are over-weight"

2010-06-07T17:55:00.000-07:00

I don't know about you, but those are the words I dread. Not about me physically, as much as my luggage! It is so stressful when you are traveling and you have to worry if your luggage may be over the weight limit. Recently my husband and I traveled home from Florida and we both heard that dreadful statement - "your are over-weight".

I travel a great deal and typically pack with room for additions from my travels. But there is always that worry that my luggage will be "over-weight". And it is such a disappointment when I get to the airport and my luggage is more than 5 pounds under the limit. Darn, I could have shopped some more!

This last trip to Savannah the ticket agent asked if the larger piece of luggage was mine! NOT, actually it was my husbands. Mine was the cute luggage with the designer symbols! It seems more and more we are both getting closer to that limit. So much so, he is no help when I need some extra space for items. His luggage is full too!

It seems to me there should be a built in scale on our luggage. Or some weight standards we can use for judging when shopping and traveling. I have a former co-worker who said while on a business trip she came across an unbelievable sale and had to purchase more luggage to get everything home! That is my kind of woman!

We have gotten into the habit of weighing our luggage before we leave on a trip. That gives me a good indication of how much I can possibly add. We use a little inexpensive scale we found through a travel agent friend, but you can get them at places like Target, Walmart or on line.

I also saw one in the travel magazine on the plane, a little more expensive but it may pack a little better if you want to take it with you on trips.

You see, my husband has been putting on more and more pounds lately, not physically, but he is taking more and more paper items with him on the trips. Now that can really add to the weight of your luggage. Save a tree, if possible save to a disc or ship separately. That is what we always did when I went on business trips, shipped all the binders and paperwork to my office, never would I use up valuable luggage space!

I haven't checked lately but any of the new phones include a scale? I am working so hard attending jazzercise classes and watching what I eat, I know I am not over-weight. So when I hear that even if it is my luggage, it is not something I take lightly! Safe travels.

Happy Mother's Day!

2010-05-08T07:07:00.000-07:00

I don't know about you but those Hallmark commercials really get to me. Having the best mom in the world and being a mom really makes those commercials hit home.

How do you ever tell your mom how much you love and appreciate her? That is something that will probably never be answered, but we will all try in some way. I have read various places where people were asked who was their hero. There is no one else I ever think of except my mom! What a woman. And what a great example of unconditional love! That's mom.

As we grow old we so often see our parents in a different light don't we? Some better, some worse. But as we become adults we value them more for what they they give and what they gave us.

My mom was always there. Even when I did some pretty stupids stuff. But being a mom, we all know that loving our kids is something we just do. And do it no matter what they do or say. There is that bond between a mother and child that just can't be copied.

This mother's day say thanks to mom, and to anyone else to may have helped or showed you some motherly love or kindness. Like I always said, put a mom in charge of this country and things would be a lot different. (My thoughts behind that will have to be another time. I don't want to ruin this page and talk about society today!)

Thanks mom, for giving me life, giving me so many things, but most of all, just being there. I love you!

Happy Mothers day to all the moms, step moms, moms to be and all the stand in moms of the world. Have a great day, you deserve it!

Now, if the federal government really wants to do something useful!

2010-04-21T04:44:00.000-07:00

I for one do not think we need another government agency. I worked for the federal government for 35 years and know first hand another agency is not something this country needs. Some things the government needs to stay out of and people need to be responsible for themselves, not expect the government to take care of things. I think they have proven that is not the best route.

But you know, what I do think is the government could make themselves useful and outlaw some things that are just not right. Like for instance, all the different shades of black, navy etc there are in the fashion world. Is that not an injustice! Sometimes shopping to match something you would think as simple as navy pants or a jacket can be a nightmare. And at some point in your quest you may have to concede and acknowledge you will never find a match. Now there's something the government could put their teeth in!!! Help us most unfortunate when it comes to something like this. Plus from a GREEN standpoint, it would save a lot of time and energy!

I was recently shopping for some items to decorate my newest derby hat and realized how many different shades of hot pink there are! I love all the derby hats and enjoy decorating my hat myself. But while shopping yesterday I found myself wishing I had brought along the main flower I was using for the hat. I began doubting myself as to what shade of pink it was!!! We should not have to endure such hardships! Where is the government when you need them, what are they doing about this!

As many of you know, I love to put a different twist on things, my mind works in very strange ways. Just like my description on what "torture" really is. If you have not read that blog you should, it is time to shop for swim suits and that blog says it all.

Many probably thought, o.k., now Diane is going to really get political here. Sorry, just had a thought and went with it. Have a great day, looks at things differently today, and smile, laugh, it sure makes things better and may turn your day around.

Never Enough Time in a Day

2010-04-09T05:51:00.000-07:00

Why is it when I have plenty of time, it seems I don't have enough time! Some know this but I just retired from a full time management career after 35 years! Oh, boy does it feel good.

When I tell people this news about myself, the typical remark is "What are you going to do"? Well having something to do has never been a problem for me, in fact, I typically have too much to do. At first as I start this new stage I would like to do "nothing". But for me that does not mean just sitting around and watching TV, it means doing things at a more leisurely pace for a while.

This week I have been out of town with my husband on a business trip. This is the first time I have had the luxury to travel with him and just do "NOTHING". It has been great, to exercise every morning and do the tourist thing.

Many I have encountered this week have asked are you in a hurry? And I just answer NO, I am in no hurry at all! What a great feeling. But the funny thing is, I have so much time each day, but the day seems to go by much too fast and I don't seem to be able to get all I want to get accomplished each day. It seems so funny to me, that I have all the time in the world but not enough time still to get what I want to get done!!!! No matter what you are doing in your life or involved in or not in, we all only have 24 hours in a day.

The one thing I have learned over the years, is in those limited amount of hours we have each day is to fill it up with as much as possible. Have fun, do things for others and do things for yourself. I know that the more I have to do each day the more I seem to get accomplished. Soo, in doing the nothing thing for a while, I should be able to get a great deal accomplished! Have a great day!

Now, where did I put that ......

2010-01-23T15:32:00.000-08:00

Ever find yourself putting the milk in the pantry and the chips in the refrigerator? I catch myself about to do that once in a while, and then I know - NO, I don't have onset Alzheimer's - I have too much on my plate. Isn't it crazy how you put things away and think, I am putting this here so I can find it later when I need it. Yet when you need it you can't find it!! My life story.

I have to confess, I have a tendency to put things away, in drawers etc, because I absolutely hate piles of items on the table, counters etc. But that practice backfires on me because oftentimes, when I need something I have a difficult time finding it!!! But, I am getting better, organizing more with folders, files, now have a nice large office for everything etc.

But I have to laugh, my husband said something the other day, and I thought, and that's a problem? Last year he was looking for his watch and could not find it. He travels a great deal and told me when he could not find it, he must have left it at a hotel. Because every once in a while he likes to wear a watch or needs it when doing presentations, he went out and purchased another watch. Well the other day he was going through a drawer and found the watch he thought he had lost.

Yikes, guess who got the blame for that? He brought this to my attention and said "and now I have two watches" because you are always putting things away like this. In fact, he brings this up every once in a while when he sees those two watches. "Now I have two watches ....." and I just listen from afar and think, ha, you have ONLY two watches, that is sad. Thanks to me you have two! I love watches and have several, to me they are like another piece of jewelry etc., I have several.

I have a great tendency to just let things roll over me. Many people would get defensive in a situation like this, argue etc. But no, I have to see the funny side of this. Poor thing, he only has two watches. Hmmmm, perhaps I should put them away and he will need to purchase another one. However, I don't think it will work this time. Lately, every time he can't find something, he asks if I have been putting things away again, like his watch! Oh brother, if it weren't for me, he wouldn't have the fashion options he has now!

I think I'll go straighten up the house, he needs some new bluejeans!

How NOT to look Old, Lesson Three ...

2010-01-05T15:33:00.001-08:00

As I savored those last few days of the holidays (like eating the last of the dips, cheese balls and other fattening items without guilt) I contemplated my New Year's plan for me, etc. I was thinking of all the things I should be putting on my "to do" list and of course thought of items I may write about on this blog.

I am continuously thinking about that article I mentioned I read about How NOT to look old and starting thinking of some of my rules or thoughts. The article focused on the young generation today and what they do, and how what we do seems "OLD" fashioned etc. But you know, I think one great way NOT to appear old is to be healthy. Those I know who look better than their age, look great etc, are typically very healthy. They eat right, exercise and take good care of them self. The return benefit is you don't look old, but great. Just look at some of the people who have succeeded in the Biggest Loser. They look so great as they take on a healthy lifestyle, lose weight etc.

So, my resolution as I start of new year, is to live healthy. In turn, I plan to look better too. I just purchased a Wii, and boy is that a work out. I am so competitive, just one more time! on that thing and before I know it I have been working out with my Wii and it is two hours later! I love it.

You know, being healthy can also save you money. Save you money on doctor bills, drugs etc. Taking pills for your ailments is not healthy, living a lifestyle that will eliminate them is.

So, let's outlive those smart ass young people walking around with their electronics, I say we spend their inheritance and enjoy life!!!! (My husband doesn't like that attitude, he likes the healthy one, but not the spending one!) Have fun, live life to its fullest! Be healthy this new year. Happy and Powerful 2010 to everyone!

Are You Kidding Me! Leggings over 40 - do's and don'ts???

2009-12-15T13:46:00.000-08:00

I guess some things will never surprise me. Or is it that there are these fashion people out there that think they can sell anything to the stupid public. I was just going through one of my favorite magazines and online emails, MORE magazine and they had a piece on a page titled “Leggings after 40 – do’s and don’t’s. You have got to be kidding me. I cannot name one woman I know over 40 who would look good in leggings and pull it off. For one thing she would look like some old woman trying to look like her teenage daughter. There are some fashion items that should be left for the young, (and pencil thin) and never attempt to bring it across the generation lines.

I think a better title for the article would be - Leggings after 40 - DON'T!

As a woman over 40 I want to look stylish and chic. But one thing I never want to look is stupid and foolish. I cannot think of any form or combination that I could wear leggings and it would look appropriate. And to top it off, the pics of the women they had in the piece were all skinny as tooth pics and I cannot believe they were over 40.

There are just some things that when they died, the blue prints should have been burned. Not stored for historical purposes but burned. As far as I am concerned that is what they should have done with leggings.

And while I am on my soap box – one fashion crime I just loathed years is those over weight women who continued to wear leggings/stretch pants etc. (and no long top to cover their butt). They are so offensive and now here the fashion world is bringing them back in vogue. Great, I guess now we will see this around another 10-20 years on those who should not be wearing!!!

If you have not figured it out yet, this is one of my pet peeves. As you know I am all for looking your best, etc. But, I am very intolerant of those who go out looking worse than I do when I clean my house.

Sorry for the protest blog today, I just could not resist when I saw this article, someone had to take a stand against this!!!!! What will be next? Bring legwarmers back in vogue!

The definition of insanity .....

2009-12-02T07:49:00.000-08:00

Most of you have probably heard or read the famous statement made by Albert Einstein - The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

I love that statement. I have seen it mentioned in many business items over the years as well as items that discuss or encourage making changes in our lives. But I have to say, this statement has really struck me lately in regards to so many women when it comes to their hair stylist and/or their haircuts/hair fashion.

I love change and have really gotten into trusting my new friend and hair stylist to do new things with my hair. It makes me feel better and I think look more updated. So many women comment on how they like my hair and how they wish they could find something new and better. I always recommend my hair Stylist, but more often than not, the comment I get back is, "oh, I have been going to the same hair stylist for the past 10, 20 or plus years!" And duh, why do you think you are still getting the same thing? (And to the defense of many hair stylists out there, many customers will not let them do anything new or different).

Women are so often afraid to change, to do something different. What is the worse that can happen? You let it grow out? My husband always says the difference between a good haircut and a bad haircut is six weeks! In other words, it won't last forever, in about six weeks try something else, refine it, get it right!!! There are so many baby boomer women out there who are aging themselves by their haircut, they are stuck in the 70's or 80's and refuse to change.

I am not saying mine is the best. I am sure I can improve, but some changes are nice. And you know, the more I think about and look at Albert Einsteins famous picture, it just may be that he was thinking of finding a new hair stylist!

How not to act OLD - lesson two.

2009-11-13T14:59:00.000-08:00

Well, the article I read recently said nothing about dress. But something I think that is important in the lessons on not looking or acting old is how you dress. In fact, one way to instantly look old is wear outdated, baggy clothing. Comfort does not mean you have to look frumpy and old. Since the article I recently read on how not to act old did not address this pet peeve of mine, I am providing this lesson on one of my rules on how not to act/look OLD.

I guess one of the reasons this is on my mind is something that happened recently. I attended a seminar last weekend and one of the women doing the presentations had on one of those shift dresses nuns and teachers wore in the 60's and 70's. All I could think is, are there places that still sell those horrible items or is she one who never gives anything up?

Being comfortable does not mean you have to look horrible AND old. Or old fashioned and outdated in both your look and your outlook on life. I have an endless amount of fashionable clothes AND they are all comfortable. I don't wear the clothes that are uncomfortable. There are two categories of clothing - there is that which we wear at home that is comfortable and that which we wear out that is comfortable. AND, as far as I am concerned, never the two shall meet.

So, lesson two, my lesson for you, is to don't wear outdated clothing, and that which makes you appear dumpy and unshapely. Just because you have gained some weight, or some of the aging process is presenting some health issues, does not mean you have to look like you don't feel well, an possibly older than you actually are. In fact, get a hair cut, put on some makeup, a smile on your face and something decent looking and see how it changes your day. Being positive about your looks can change your day, the way others treat you and how you feel about yourself.

I have a friend I met through some of my networks, and she has recently launched a great new website. Easy Style is dedicated to helping women wear clothes that compliment their body, http://www.shopeasystyle.com/. Check it out, it may be the answer you are looking for to help you NOT act or look old. They also have a facebook page, click on the logo to the right to connect to the facebook page.

There are numerous sites, shows etc that help you dress for style and your shape. Many department stores have very talented salespeople who can give great advice, etc.

So, how not to Act OLD? Dress stylish and not in clothes so comfortable people will wonder how recently you got out of the hospital. Wearing clothing that is frumpy, dumpy and unattractive can make you appear much older than you actually are. Positive attitude towards all aspects of your life can be life changing. Best of luck.

Thank you to our Veterans!

2009-11-11T03:33:00.000-08:00

As many know I have worked for the federal government for over 30 years. And one aspect of my long career I am very proud of is for two different periods I had the privilege to work at a local VA Medical Center and ensure our veterans were given good health care.

Walking through those halls everyday gave me many opportunities to see just a few of the men and women who gave so much to ensure I have freedom. Many gave their health, their limbs, their mental health just to name a few items to ensure this country stays the land of the free. These men and women give so much and do not get enough gratitude. So many go unnoticed.

Today is Veterans Day. Many will be off today and will probably sleep in late, go shopping or catch up on some errands. Many will go about their day just like every other day and never even think of our veterans. My prayer is that many today will pause and say a prayer for all our veterans and our active duty military. They need our prayers every day.

I am very blessed to have many veterans in my family. My husband is a veteran and very proud of his service to this country. My father and father-in-law are both veterans. But they never draw attention to that or require an thanks. They just did what they thought was right for our country - that is what describes so many veterans of this country.

My husband has a friend who calls him every Veterans Day and says thank you for serving in our military. Apparently he makes it a point to call anyone he personally knows who is a veteran and thanks them for their service. Isn't that awesome? If my husband is not home, he leaves a very nice message of thanks. That little gesture really means a lot to my husband.

As we move through this day to honor our country's veterans, let us all also remember their families in our prayers. The families of veterans make many untold sacrifices so they can serve our country.

Happy Veterans Day, thank you for all you have given this country.

How NOT to look or act OLD! Lesson one!

2009-10-29T12:16:00.000-07:00

Wow did an article of a similar name catch my attention recently. And what was surprising, it discussed things I had not thought of. But it did give me some things to ponder (as I age, gracefully).

The first lesson, or point made in the article was, ditch the watches! Boy, that was a blow, just like I like shoes, I also like watches. To me they are just an accessory, or jewelry item. But, to the young, that is old. In fact, my husband, who doesn't even try and seem hip, does not wear a watch. That really burns me to think, he is hip! The magazine item pointed out, that young people do not wear watches, they use their cell phones to tell time. And, that is just what my husband says he does.

BUT! I have a few problems with this. Don't get me wrong. I want to be hip and not appear old, or old fashioned. But I see some flaws in this reasoning.

First of all, what about all those gorgeous watches in the stores!!! Ohhhh, so many, and all so cute. So what, if the face may be too small or ornate that you cannot really glance down and tell the time. Especially if you don't have on those bifocals. But, like I said, they are an accessory, an item to balance out the outfit and the two wrists. If I ditch the watches, I will have to start doubling up on bracelets for my outfits etc. Ahhh, the issues we deal with. And, who is going to tell all the stores. I don't know if you have noticed, but walk in any store, Macy's, Steinmart, etc, and they have tons of watches. Hmmmm, see a bargain opportunity here.

Second, I have a problem with the younger generation, as well as the older like my husband, constantly having their nose in their phone, or to their ear, whatever! It seems they rely on their cell phones for far too much. You can casually glance at your watch to see what time it is and many times go un-noticed. But how can you pull out your phone, check the time and go un-noticed? I say not many. There are times when you are talking with someone, etc, and you need to check the time but you do not want to offend them or stop the flow of the conversation. Flipping out your phone and checking the time during a conversation, to me, says you are not that interested.

Third, the article went on to say you must flip your phone open with one hand, and check the time without your bifocals. O.k., this could help with hand exercise for stiff joints, but bringing out the bifocals may just bring more attention to yourself and your age then a watch may.

Oh, well, I am going to continue to wear my pretty watches. But I have to admit, many times as I put one on I have thought of this article. And I do use my cell phone for my alarm clock when traveling and have used it to verify the time. So in this category I will judge myself hip or not acting totally old! This is one I am going to do a check-in with my daughters and her friends the next time they are around.

Signing off, my computer clock is reminding me I need to get to a meeting!

If you don't get all your reading done this summer ...

2009-09-29T15:14:00.000-07:00

I don't know why, but I seem to collect books to read during the summer. I do this for two reasons, 1) because I tend to take more vacations during the summer and 2) I have more down time during this time of year because we spend a great deal of time on our boat. But it seems many of the books I do collect don't get read during the summer.

But, that is perfectly o.k. I think it is great to have a few books in reserve, in the event I have some unexpected down time or just wish to stop and relax. I just finished a book our book club selected to read. Vigil, by Cecilia Samartin, (Atria Books) about Ana & her life long quest to find her true purpose. The patience and persistence demonstrated by this quiet and pious woman was admirable and showed a different sort of strength that modern-day women don't often see or think about. I have to say she did give our group something to talk about. All of us being such strong willed and independent women had to considered the other side or approach to consider when faced with events in life. Our conversations about this main character actually served as a spring board for our discussion of various women we knew and how they handled very challenging life events in their lives.

At times throughout the book I have to admit I did not care for Ana and her choices. She seemed to be at times to have too much patience. But reading about someone who made choices different than what I probably would have, created more interest for me and gave me a different perspective to consider.

The method by which the author presents the story is very engaging and keeps you coming back for more. This is a book I read quickly. Not because I was in a hurry, but because the story interested me and I wanted more.

I recommend this book to others. Add it to your list of vacation books, or one to read by the fire this winter. Our book club gave it a 3 bifocals rating! Enjoy.

Wish I had thought of that!

2009-08-24T06:36:00.000-07:00

There are so many things I purchase or see and say "wish I had thought of that!" Some women have taken ideas to either make life easier or provide a much needed service, and in turn made a significant amount of income from their venture. Do you ever have an idea, to find later someone actually put it into play? That happens to me quite often.

I am one of those women who loves all the cute summer dresses and tops, but hate being in those freezing cold restaurants, shops or meeting rooms in the summer where it feels like it is 2 below 0. Wearing a heavy sweater or jacket just does nothing for my cute outfit! Plus it is so inconvenient to carry around a sweater in the summertime just in case you end up someplace that is freezing. I have so often thought why can't there be something to keep us warm, other than hot flashes, while wearing these cute sleeveless tops and dresses?

I recently came across just the product that helps in this situation. The item I found is called "Chilly Jilly". It was invented by a woman who was looking for a solution to the problem I have described. She not only developed something to use when the temperature is too cool for our summer outfits, but she also came up with something that fits in your purse. The woman is a genius. The Chilly Jilly is a shawl that is lightweight, crease-free and does the job of keeping the chill out.

I purchased a couple for my girlfriend as a gift. She said they are great because they fit in your purse and easy to take on travel. I purchased two for myself, one black and one white.

This item has really taken off. Jill Boehler, Designer and Founder of Chilly Jilly, was recently featured in More Magazine and on The Today Show. Good for you Jill! It is so great to see a woman take an idea and turn it into a money making venture.

You can purchase these wonderful little wraps on line, ChillyJilly.com, or at local boutiques. I purchased mine online and received them in just a couple days. Since my first purchase, Jill has expanded her line of items she now offers. Looks like this great idea has led to more!

Picture above shows the Chilly Jilly in its small carry bag!

If all the creams and lotions really worked . . .

2009-07-22T18:42:00.000-07:00

Now I am not talking about anything in the sex department - that is another blog. But what I am thinking about today are all those creams and lotions that the ads say will take away the wrinkles, the under eye bags, the cellulite, the saggy butt, etc, etc.

If all those creams and lotions worked, I would not have to work out at the gym, walk several miles a day and eat oatmeal to just stay at my current size. All those creams and lotions would make me look 30, fit in a size 6 (or if I'm a real good girl a 4) and not have a wrinkle or bag one!

But, are there any that really work? I do like some beauty products just because they seem to help keep my skin healthy. But I guess if I stayed with one product long enough I would see if it really worked. My attention span is short when it comes to this type thing, I want instant improvement! I love Obagi products, on the expensive side but oh so worth it. I also like several items from the home sales beauty line of Beauty Control. Some of their products work so well and very affordable. But, what about those body conture creams? Not sure if I can use enough of that stuff to see if it works, but oh how great if it did.

I am trying out a new product, the Galvanic Spa? Ever heard of it? I think it is working, or am I trying to convince myself. People do say I look younger than I am. Could all these products be helping?

I heard a speaker say once that women purchase so many items and even though they have a money back guarantee, that 98% of the time they never take the items back that don't work. Well, not this girl. I was in the cosmetic department in Bloomingdale's and I asked one of the very young and very pretty sales girl if they had anything that reduced under eyes bags. She of course said "yes, we do." After she showed me the product I asked if they had a money back policy. She hesitated and then said, yes, but no one has ever brought this back. Well, I purchased the product. But, guess what? It made no impact on my eyes. The next month when I was near this store, I took the product back. It cost over $50 - not the kind of change I just throw away. The sales girl was rather surprised I was bringing it back and asked, well have you tried ...... NO thanks.

I remember several years ago when I was purchasing all my makeup products from a well known line at a major department store when the sales girl suggested some additional products and one was a cream that reduced cellulite! I thought, does this girl think I am an idiot? How can some cream reduce something so easily when it took a lot to get it there in the first place. But back then these type products were all new to me. She went on to say she could not keep the product in stock that her customers loved the stuff. Well, I thought, I don' need that, let them drink the koolaid, how silly.

But you know, now that I am 50'ish and noticing the lines and have to work even harder to stay my current size etc, those lotions and creams can be very inviting. Just if, if only they worked, wouldn't it be great. Use the "body contouring" creams and have a butt that looks like a 20 something year old. Oh how I would smear that stuff on if it worked! And purchase - what's this nonsense about a 3 or 5 ounce tube, give it to me in the gallon size if it works!

I now understand why they say we baby boomers are a powerful buying market. I guess so, we are looking for that item that is a fountain of youth. Now that I am 54 and working to look my best for my age, I see how we are a strong buying power. We now have money to spend on ourselves - but I want something that works. I have tried so many things. Hey I have even tried the Preparation H for my under eye bags, they say the beauty queens use it! (And for the record, it did not work)

What have you found that works?

What are you reading this summer?

2009-07-10T17:32:00.000-07:00

Seems like you see articles titled like this every summer. I don't seem to see articles like this in the winter. Is it that people are preparing for vacations and looking for books to read? Or is it, it takes a full year for most of us to read all the books we picked up the year before and had good intentions of reading on vacation? Who needs suggestions like this in between?

I love to read fiction. But I just don't have the time like I once did. Now that there are blogs, facebook, websites etc to keep track of. But with going on vacation recently I did pick up a few books and enjoyed them.

One book I read early this summer was Best Intentions by Emily Listfield. It was entertaining, and most women would enjoy the twist it takes for the main character. It is interesting and sad what our mind can do to us or lead us to believe, if we let it. I think most women my age will enjoy this book, we have all been at this stage in our relationships at one point or another. I am sure there is something in her life everyone can relate to. Does keep you guessing and you may have a different opinion as to how Lisa reacts and what she does.

One thing I intend to do before future travels, however, is plan a little more in regards to my reading selections. I have enjoyed fiction that was centered around various cities or historic events. And many times I wished I had read a book earlier, or before I had visited that place etc. One that comes to mind is Abundance by Sena Jeter Naslund. It is a wonderful novel of Marie Antoinette. Oh how I wish I had read this before or while we traveled to France a couple years ago. I loved Versailles and this would have given it a more romantic meaning. (Instead of me thinking, I will scream if I have to get back on that bus!) Naslund's writing tells the untold story, particularly of women who have been marginalized or misunderstood.

In the airport to our Ft. Lauderdale/Bimini trip, I picked up a Dan Brown novel. Great book, I like his writing, but the topic was set in the Artic - Deception Point. I wish now I had found something set on a beach or tropics!

With all my upcoming travel this and next year, I need to do a better job of selections in relationship to my trips. My goal in the next few months will be to seek out some great reads for several of my trips. Something set in Hawaii, Europe or perhaps Germany.

I am one who always has a bag of various items to read. Not just novels, but magazines, newsletters, newspapers, mail, you name it. But is is always nice to have a great book to pick up if you have some down time or a lot of time to kill. I love it when I have a book that is difficult to put down. They make even the longest layovers in an airport almost bearable!

Any suggestions out there? I would love to hear them.

Here's an adventure you may want to check out!

2009-07-05T20:18:00.000-07:00

I just love my friends. Most never take "no" for an answer, are are always up for a challenge and are such inspirations to many.

That's my friend Carol Dawson. She is always fighting a cause, or looking for a new adventure or just living life to its fullest. That, among many other things, is why I like her and consider her such a good friend.

Earlier this year she told me about an adventure she and her husband are undertaking. Two years ago the city of Louisville, Kentucky, hosted the Summer National Senior Games/Olympics. She and her husband, Ken, had a friend who played volleyball during that event. After seeing the competition and the fun, she stated to Ken, "we are going to qualify for something for the next Senior Games".

Well, two years later, she and Ken, after much trial and error and hard work, qualified and are headed out to the 2009 Summer National Senior Games. They will be competing in the Badminton Division. All I have to say is, "you go girl". That is what I like about Carol, she never let others discourage her from doing something.

I have told others about what she and Ken are doing, and many first reacted very negatively. But, as I typically do, I set the record straight as to just what is so cool about what they are doing.

You can follow Carol and Ken and all their adventures on her BLOG. Oh, did I tell you, not only are they competing in the Senior Games in California later this summer, but they are traveling via RV from Jeffersonville, IN, out to the Games on a once in a life time cross country trip?

So, to hear about the adventures they encounter on the trip, to include the trials and challenges with the RV, not to mention all the sights along the way, you will want to check her BLOG.

Carol is an excellent writer. In fact, among all the other things she does, she is a writer for a local newspaper in Indiana. Check out her BLOG and learn more about Carol and Ken and the adventures they encounter on this trip. I think you will be glad you did.

Happy Travels Carol and Ken, and Best of Luck at the Olympics!

The best anti-wrinkle cream!

2009-07-02T17:34:00.000-07:00

I was flipping through a magazine the other day and this title caught my eye. I am always looking at what the latest creams etc are on the market. But as I read further, I discovered the item was getting your attention to get you to use sun screen.

Well the title did get my attention, but I am already an avid sun screen user. And I am here to say it does delay wrinkles and other aging of your skin.

Several years ago a co-worker mentioned to others in the office it was my birthday. Someone was walking through the office at the time and he said, oh, it is? Let me guess your age? I said, o.k. Well he walked over to me and said, let me see your hands. I thought that was a strange request. He then guessed my age, which was much younger than I was. Well, any man that does that when it comes to age is smart. But he went on to say, boy your hands don't show any signs of age at all!

Believe it or not, one place I have always put sun screen, is my hands. I am 54 and I have NO age spots on my hands. I have had several comments from others about that too. In fact, I was at a beauty open house a local spa sponsored and they now do hand treatments for women whose hands no longer look pretty from overexposure to sun etc. Wow, that is one expense I don't have to endure to keep my youthful look!!

But seriously I always use sunscreen. May women think sunning their face looks good, but it does so much damage to your face. And as time goes by the wrinkles will intensify and your skin will begin to look older and worse than you really are.

We recently spent two weeks in the Bahamas and southern Florida. I was constantly putting on sunscreen with SPF 30. And you know what? You can tan even when you use SPF 30! I can really get by with SPF 15 but I did not want to get sunburn and we were out in the sun every day. A bad sunburn can ruin a vacation.

Years ago my daughter was in marching band and the director said that sunburn was no excuse from practice. So she too became an avid sun screen user. And you know what? She always had a tan, and never had a burn.

One of the women on vacation with us had a cool product. It is a tinted sunscreen for your face. And it is SPF 41! It is nice, especially for women like me who like to walk and do a lot of races etc. You can put on sunscreen and you look like you have a light layer of makeup on. I like it, it is a elta MD Skincare product. The item is UV Physical, SPF 41. There are so many products out there you just need to find the right one. I also like the Obagi sun screen for my face, it is great too.

But you know what? Expensive is not always the answer. One of the sunscreens we liked the best this past vacation was the No-Ad sun screen. A friend of mine said the a dermatologist recommended that brand to her mother. And to be honest, it feels great on your skin, not real heavy. Of course there are dozens of sunscreens that are great. I went in a drugstore in Florida and could not believe the assortment of sunscreen they had on display. My husband caught up with me in the store and asked what was I doing? I said nothing, I just had never seen so many different type sunscreens on display before and was just looking! It was from top to bottom shelf and the shelves where about 15 feet long! They had every type, and many I had never heard of. It was crazy!

Well so much for my "use your sun screen" blog. Hey if it keeps the wrinkles away I am all for it. Years ago I heard that running caused your face to sag faster. That was all I needed to firm up my committed dislike of running. I didn't enjoy running and anything that speeds the aging process is off my list! Have a safe summer, be safe, and be smart in the sun.

Go Green! Pack plenty of clothes!

2009-06-10T13:42:00.000-07:00

In a discussion on an upcoming trip, my husband has made the statement, “all I need is a couple pairs of shorts and a few t-shirts, I can always do laundry”. Oh yeah, "Mr. never plans ahead with his wardrobe Marv".

I can see it now, that statement about laundry will just put us in the same situation we find ourselves in at home. We are about to go someplace and all the items I think he could wear are dirty!!! Ahhhh.

Well as far as I am concerned, doing laundry on vacation is not Going Green. Of course, I don’t mind doing laundry. Our Condo will have a washer and dryer etc. But washing some very small loads of laundry is not very GREEN in these days and times, now is it?

I myself, choose to support the Green movement and pack as much as possible. Hey I have all these cute outfits, why deprive anyone from seeing them? That way I don’t have to worry about doing a load of laundry until I get home, and the washer will be full. Now that is going green, right?

Never be overweight! (With your luggage)

2009-06-01T17:40:00.000-07:00

I bet you thought this was a blog about weight loss. Wrong. It is about travel and never being over weight with your luggage. Not only do I worry about my luggage being overweight when I leave on a trip, I almost always worry about that issue on the way home!

I travel quite a bit for my job. In fact, this past couple years I have traveled an average of 2 weeks a month. I take the expert traveler lane in the airports. Hey, I think I earned it.

If you are like me, a woman who loves clothes, when you pack you have to be very strategic. I love clothes, but have to plan when traveling. Typically what I do, is I stick with the same color theme on a business trip. In other words, all blacks or brown tones that way I pack fewer shoes, can mix and match more, etc. But the business travel is not my major concern about weight. My vacation travel is typically more of a concern.

We actually made this discovery when our daughter spent last semester in Berlin, Germany. Packing for an entire semester was quite a challenge. She found something, however, that was a great help in getting all she needed over to Germany, and staying within the 50lbs limit on luggage. She also found that it came in very helpful when she was off for a weekend to another country and only wanted to carry one small bag, but wanted to make sure she had enough clothes.

That discovery? The Space Bag! No, not the ones you probably have seen on TV where you need a vacuum to suck out the air. It is the same manufacturer, but they actually have space bags for travelers. In other words, you don't need anything to suck out the air. You just pack your clothes in the bag and roll out the air! I was recently worrying about packing for an upcoming trip and realized those space bags could really come in handy for any type trip.

In fact, I now keep a large and medium size Space Bag in my suit case on all my travel. It takes the stress out of the possibility that I may have more to bring back home than what I I started the trip with. Being a former Girl Scout Leader, I like to think I am always PREPARED!

We are planning a trip over to Bimini, Bahamas, for a long weekend and then on to Marco Island for a stay in a condo. The first leg of our trip will be over to the island of Bimini by boat and very casual. In fact, our Captain mentioned when his wife and I were trying to made the decision whether to fly over or ride the boat over that we were bringing a lot of weight! Hey wait just one minute buddy! He quickly pointed out he meant our luggage. He said we had to pack light. In fact, we are leaving our other suitcases for the second week back in Florida.

And to add more stress to this packing issue, the couple we are traveling with said the other night that they were just taking a few items. In fact Carolyn said she was just taking a couple swim suits, shorts and some t-shirts. Before I could get too upset, or start to hyperventilate, she did add she was taking a sundress. Ah, I felt I could relax a little. I need some "cute" items to take along! Also, I have agreed to take a very small bag for the trip to Bimini, but I want to be prepared.

While thinking about these packing challenges the other night I remembered the SPACE BAGS! I have confidence these will help solve my worries. And no one will be the wiser! I will be there on deck with my small bag, with more stuff than they will realize because of my space bags.

Carolyn and I were discussing the Space Bags the other day. Her daughter is taking a trip to New Zealand this summer and needs to pack light. She made the comment, that the Space Bags are just as valuable to have if not for the trip over but for the Trip Home! Translation - she likes to shop too! Thank you Lord, I knew I liked her, this trip is going to be so much fun!!! I will be able to take the clothes I think I will need to be comfortable and still have a small bag like the others on the trip!

Check them out, the Space Bag, it really does save space and weight in your luggage. I have found some at WalMart recently. Probably other large department stores carry them. Or you can purchase online. Hmmmm, wonder if they have anything that works on shoes!

Need Help? Ask a Woman!

2009-06-01T02:23:00.000-07:00

Women are so giving. I was attending a professional women's luncheon the other day and the speaker was discussing networking etc. One thing she said was so true. Women are so giving and so willing to help. Just mention to another woman you have a problem or need help, and they most likely will help or have a solution or suggestion as to how you can solve the problem. But, she pointed out, most women have difficulty in asking for help. How true.

Look all around you, in your community as in mine there are so many women making an impact in the lives of others.

A group I recently learned about here in our community is Women4Women. This month they are hosting a 5K Walk, Run & Festival which will benefit several organizations that help women. Not only will the proceeds benefit several organizations that help others, but the event will also have a festival type atmosphere with booths to include organizations in our community that help others.

I have witnessed so many times how women are always so eager to help others. After all, who heads up your PTA, most non-profits and are always eager to organize when others are in need?

I saw this in action when Shannon White started up Dress for Success here in Louisville. She was a stay at home mom who wanted to donate some suits. When seeking out a Dress for Success to donate to, the home office suggested she start one here. She did and now they are a significant Non-profit here that has impacted a number of women's lives and in turn helped play a part in improving the lives of them and their families.

Last year Kim and I just wanted to get a few women together we grew up with for dinner. That one dinner grew into an annual charity event. Women just can't get together without a lot of great ideas being discussed. Out of that dinner, we created the South End Girls Unite event. Last year the group raised money for Gilda's Club Louisville. It was great fun and very successful.

This year the group will be hosting an event again in September. The South End Girls Unite event will be September 20 at the Shively Community Center. Watch our site, www.bikinisandbifocals.com for more information. This year we will be raising money for Women4Women. This is a great organization plus it falls right in line with what we are all about at Bikinis and Bifocals, women helping women make connections that make a difference!

I think it is awesome the way women are so giving and always helping others. But we need to remember to ask for help. I know I am guilty of that and will make more efforts in remembering to ask for what I need or for help. Remember when you see women working so hard to help others, they can always use help and support for what they are doing.

Keep up the great work ladies, you make such a difference.

The Law of Attraction!

2009-05-26T17:23:00.000-07:00

Isn't it amazing how things come about in your life? Do you believe you bring them about or it is just fate? Over the past couple years I have read a lot, AND experienced a lot, about the Law of Attraction in my life and others. I do believe there is something to changing your outlook towards life and how it can bring about great change in your life. I have seen it happen for me!

I get so many emails. Just the other day I received a mass distribution email from a good friend. It was spreading the word about a speaker who was to be in town. Well of course the title caught my attention. The topic to be covered was the Law of Attraction.

Of course I shared this with Kim, my friend who also believes in this and the power of positive attitude. I asked if she wanted to attend. I had already planned to attend whether I could get someone to go with me or not. Not surprising, her instant response was, "Sign me up!"

I now regret that I did not pass the message on to everyone else I know. Since I could not attest to the quality of the speaker, and there was a charge for the workshop, I hesitated. For some reason I held back and did not pass the word on. My Bad, I should have had a more positive attitude right! Oh well, even we optimist fall short some days.

Well, I have to report, the event was well worth my time and money. In fact, I probably saw about 20 people I knew at this event. (We positive attitude people seem to drift to the same type events!) The workshop was hosted at the Unity Church of Louisville in downtown Louisville. I have never attended the church, but others in attendance said they have many worthwhile events and programs at this church. It is small, but the seating was comfortable and the sound good.

The speaker was Michael Losier, author of the book Law of Attraction. If you have heard of the Secret? Well this book tells you how to put the elements of what they speak of in the Secret into play in your life. He had such a great way of presenting and a very simple and usable method for this way of attracting good into your life.

As a speaker I always tell participants that everything they attend they should view as a tool. It may be that some things you learn or hear in a seminar you put into work instantly and some you place away for future use. But one thing is, it is always worth your time if you go away with one new tool to use.

Well the workshop was late on a Thursday evening, but he kept me engaged. And wow, did I take way some items that have helped me in this journey. Everyday we learn something new don't we! I now have a much better appreciation for the expression, What do you want? - Not What don't you want. I now am focusing more on what I want!

Isn't it crazy how life plays out. When we first arrived at the event, they were selling his book and having a book signing. I told Kim, I think I have that book, and you bought it for me! She said really, it does look a little familiar. When I got home that night I checked my office, and yes, there it was, I had the book. But as I have told many, I am more a book on tape, can multi task that way, instead of a book reader. But the thing I discovered at the workshop is, his book is also a type of workbook to get you through the process of incorporating the law of attraction in your life. This is one book I now will take the time to read and use.

Check it out, Law of Attraction, The Science of Attracting More of What you Want and Less of What you Don't Want. I wish I had had my daughter there with me. I saw many women there with their daughters. How I wish I knew then what I know now! But that is the past and I love what I know now. My current question I ask myself everyday? So, what do I want?

If you get the opportunity to hear Michael speak, I highly recommend you invest the time and money. It may change your life forever. He is telling you what the Secret is and how to put it to play in your life. Have a great day, Diane

Biggest Losers are Winners!

2009-05-18T17:54:00.000-07:00

I don't know how it happened but I got hooked on this season's The Biggest Loser. It seemed that each week as I was cruising through channels in the evening, I would come upon the weigh in portion of the show. It got to the point, I make plans to see the show, some of it and witness the weigh in.

I have never followed this show before. But I love it when there are people who make themselves over. It is so amazing how people can change their lives. And to see how they look compared to how they looked at the start of the show! Amazing.

Another thing that was great this season, is the older contestants stole the show! See it is never too late to improve your life. Jerry showed us all, that if you change the way you eat and if you exercise more you can eliminate many health problems.

Here is a shout out for Helen, you are such a Bikinis and Bifocal woman! Congratulations and keep up the great work. You have all been inspiring to many.

What a Great Book for All Mothers this Mother's Day!

2009-04-30T16:53:00.000-07:00

We have met so many awesome women on this journey of establishing the Bikinis and Bifocals image and attitude for women over 40. We have met women either in person or those we have only met through the Internet.

One of the women we have met through one of our many connections via this site is Carrie Flintom. Carrie is an awesome woman. She is a life coach who knows what a life transformation is all about.

Over a year ago we were contacted by some women we know who loved our story and wanted us to share it with Carrie. After sharing our story with Carrie, she asked if she could use it and feature us as one of the many women we would feature in her upcoming book. Well, of course, we were so flattered and welcomed her invitation.

I never really thought about the book after that. I trusted that what she was doing would be something that would inspire women and broaden our connections. In fact, I was recently going over some old emails and ran across hers. I wondered what was the status on the book. Not long after that we heard from Carrie that her book was published and she wanted to send us copies!

Of course I am greatly flattered that she mentions Bikinis and Bifocals in her book. Her book, Heroes in Heels is such a wonderful journey for women to awaken the hero within. She shares with us her transformation and her journey as well as provide the readers a platform to launch their own transformation and self examination.

Heroes in Heels delivers a fresh approach to create the fulfilling life you’ve always dreamed of living. Through a simple daily process that takes just minutes a day, you will enjoy personal heartfelt stories, inspirational quotes, positive affirmations, and brief journal entries. These key elements are the natural building blocks which provide the foundation to living the magnificent and rewarding life you deserve.

Heroes take the form of so many different women to us all. It is such a great opportunity to read stories that inspire us all. Take the challenge . . . because, as Carrie puts it, not all Heroes wear cape! Enjoy! And thanks Carrie for including Kim and I among your many heroes.

I love Dave Ramsey!

2009-04-23T08:40:00.000-07:00

Many people already know this, even my husband, that I love Dave Ramsey. He is so awesome. For those of you who do not know, Dave Ramsey is a personal money-management expert, an extremely popular national radio personality and best-selling author of The Total Money Makeover. In his latest book, a follow-up of his enormously successful New York Times best-sellers Financial Peace and More Than Enough, Ramsey exemplifies his life's work of teaching others how to be financially responsible, so they can acquire enough wealth to take care of loved ones, live prosperously into old age, and give generously to others.

Tonight Dave Ramsey is hosting a live event called Town Hall for Hope, The Economy, Real Money, Real Answers. Go to the website and check the locations where it will be hosted. This event is free. I just checked my zip code and there are over 10 sites hosting this webinar tonight out in the rural area in which I live! That is so exciting. There are also radio stations broadcasting the event.

Dave has a very positive attitude and approach in life. Take control of your life and destiny. If you do you will impact not only your life but the life of your children, their children etc. We hear so much doom and gloom about the economy. This is an effort to encourage people not to give into this.

Dave will address the nation live with straight talk about what's really going on with the economy. He will discuss the history of the economy, real stats, and steps to take toward hope! Plus, he will answer questions from all around the country. You can submit questions via email, Face book, Twitter, and YouTube. Don’t miss it, could change your life!

Several years ago my husband and I attended one of his workshops at our church and it absolutely changed our lives. But, I have to admit; I did not go willingly or really know what I was getting into when we decided to attend the workshop. For weeks as we would be leaving church, my husband would bring into the conversation, “let’s sign up for this money management class”. Instantly I wanted to say NO, NO, not another one of those classes where after 5 minutes it is so over my head I zone out. In fact for weeks, I just nodded and would change the subject. That was all I needed was another thing to commit to. But, for some reason, I think it was because my husband had been reading all the details about the course and Dave Ramsey, he kept suggesting it to me each week as we left church. At one point he said, I think it will be good for us and our marriage. Finally, one Sunday, I relented and said, o.k., I’ll do it.

Well long story short, as I said in the above paragraph, it changed our lives. It was an awesome program. Not once was it over my head, and it was exciting to see our efforts and time invested in the class pay off. So many in the group who were our age said, I wish I had know all this when I was younger. And to our delight there were two newly wed couples in the class and a few young single adults. We all kept telling them that this will change their lives forever.

I always love listening to him on the radio when I can, his advice is so great. We can take control of our destiny and so many people do. I love to hear the success stories and I almost tear up when the families call in and tell their stories and get to shout “We’re debt FREE”!

Can’t wait to see what he says tonight. We as American’s need to take control back from all the politicians who want to ruin this country. Take control America, learn what is going on and take control of your destiny. Thanks Dave, America loves you.

Tell me Something Positive

2009-04-20T14:52:00.000-07:00

One of my morning rituals is to turn on the TV and listen to the news as background. This morning, however, I had second thoughts about turning on the TV. My initial thought this morning was do I really want to turn the TV on? Everything on the news is so negative. Do I really want to start my day today with negative thoughts and feelings? Just tell me something positive for once was my last thought as, out of habit, I found the remote and turned on the TV.

Wow, what a surprise when the TV came on. Fox News was interviewing the men who initiated the Grateful Nation Montana movement. Grateful Nation Montana was formed for the specific purpose of facilitating college educations for the children of soldiers killed while on active duty in Iraq or Afghanistan. This was started by two insurance professionals, David Bell and John McCarrick, who wanted to do something for the families of our fallen soldiers. Talk about something positive.

These men have started such a wonderful initiative in this country. In fact, it has been recognized as such a positive initiative, that they are constantly being called for info on how other states can start the same thing. According to their website, they are working with professionals to develop guidance so others can do this within their states.

This story was a great way to start my day. It made me grateful to be in a country of such wonderful giving people. We have so much to be thankful for and this is a great program to show our thanks to those who lost their lives for our country.

Items such as this make me reflect and look for ways I can give back. Writing a check has become too easy. I was fortunate enough to get an email when I got to work that invited me to join a group of professionals in support of a new Career Center our local Dress for Success affiliate is setting up. I love the organization Dress for Success and what they stand for and all that they do. I am so honored to know there is something that I can do to contribute to their organization with something other than clothes or money. For a rainy morning, the day was getting better all the time.

After having these two items brought to my attention this morning, I found myself reflecting on something I read through last night. A good friend of mine, Carol Dawson, started an initiative with her local paper a couple years ago. It is The Extra Milers column she writes once a month that highlights those in her southern Indiana community who go the EXTRA MILE to make a positive difference. I have heard her speak of it often, but have never taken the time to check it out. Last night I took the time to find the link to her articles and read over several she has logged in over the last couple years. To say the least it was humbling to see all the different types of people, many very humble, who in their own way are doing something to make this world a better place.

I love this story Carol tells at most of her seminars, it says a lot about her and about those she writes about as well as others like the men in Montana who are making a difference in the world, one life at a time.

Do Something to Make a Difference in Another Person’s Life
Once upon a time there was a wise man that used to go to the ocean to do his writing. One day he was walking along the shore. As he looked down the beach, he saw a human figure moving like a dancer. He smiled to himself to think of someone dancing on the beach. So he began to walk
faster to catch up with this person. As he got closer he saw that it was a young woman and she
wasn’t dancing, but instead she was reaching down to the shore, picking up something and very
gently throwing it into the ocean. As he got even closer, he called out, “Good Morning, what are
you doing?” The young woman paused, looked up and replied, “Throwing starfish back into the
ocean.” He asked, “Why are you throwing starfish into the ocean?” She replied, “The sun is up
and the tide is going out. If I don’t throw them back in, they will die.” The man was intrigued and stated, “But, young lady, don’t you realize that there are miles and miles of beach and starfish are all along it. You can’t possibly make a difference!” She listened politely. Then bent down, picked up another starfish and threw it back into the sea, past the breaking waves and said, “It made a difference for that one.” (Author Unknown)

We all have the ability to MAKE A DIFFERENCE. I sure got my wish today, I heard a lot of positive!

I received the ultimate compliment last night!

2009-04-15T16:22:00.000-07:00

Isn’t it funny when you least expect it, something turns out to be eventful? Every once in a while, something will happen that takes an event from ordinary to special. That happened to me last night.

I attended a community business association meeting last night. To be honest I almost cancelled on going about three times. Twice, in route, I almost took detours and thought about blowing the meeting off. But, I pushed on, as tired as I was, and kept the thought going that you just never know what lies ahead when attending something new.

Well, the group was very organized, informed and doing a lot of great things for the southwest area of Louisville, KY. I met some very involved and enthusiastic people who believe in their community – the Southwest Dream Team. This being the area I grew up, I was proud of their accomplishments and what they are doing for an area I love dearly and hold many found memories.

But the highlight of the night was definitely a conversation I had with a gentleman at the table I joined. We were discussing an old facility in that area that has made national TV, the old Waverly Hills Sanatorium, and was sharing stories etc we had of the now local attraction.

In the course of the conversation I was mentioning how I, as a school girl, volunteered at the former nursing home. One man at the table, kept questioning me and at one point was almost argumentative, as if challenging me that what I was saying was not true.

At one point, I said, “Seriously, that is what we did.” As if, don’t you believe me? He then said, no way, there is no way you are old enough to have done that! WOW, that was why he was challenging me? He didn’t think I was old enough to have been around when the place was open and in existence. I wanted to hug him! But, I laughed softly and said,”oh yes, I am more than old enough to have volunteered there”. He just looked puzzled and said again, “no way, that would have been back in the ……

Anyway, I left there last night reviewing in my mind the events of the meeting, but realized as I went through the highlights, that the best part of driving all the way to that meeting was getting that ultimate compliment! After a long day, tired and over committed as usual, it was great to get that boost from a stranger with a comment that conveyed he thought I was younger than I am!!!!! Its the small things that make me happy.

Valerie, you are such a Bikinis and Bifocals Woman!

2009-03-29T07:34:00.001-07:00

Have you seen Valerie Bertinelli on the cover of People? Don't know how you can miss it, they have had it on the T.V. news stations all weekend. Now is she a Bikinis and Bifocals woman or what? She is 48 and is wearing a two piece bathing suit!

I am not saying that because she is wearing a bikini/two piece, I am saying this because she has the confidence and attitude to do this. I love her blog and her attitude towards life now. Isn't that what it is all about? Have the attitude towards life that is positive, fun and sexy. That is what the bikinis stands for in our logo - an attitude, not that you need to wear one to be one of us, but to have that attitude towards life.

What attitude is that? That at any age, whether you are 40'ish, 50'ish or beyond that you still want to feel good, look good, be sexy and have FUN! When you have a positive attitude about life, life just gets better.

And the Bifocals portion of our logo brings it all together with the reality of women our age. Yes there are medical issues we must deal with after 40, BUT that does not mean we cannot be bikini attitude women! So many women seem to lose their confidence as they age and hide behind plain and old. NOT ME.

If you take care of yourself (look at how Valerie's hard work payed off) and seek information that will help you stay healthy you can be sexy, healthy, look great and have FUN.

Bikinis and Bifocals is all about attitude and lifestyle. I love Valerie's attitude and wish more women our age understood that as well.

I don't have goals that include a bikini, but I do have goals that include looking good in my clothes that are stylish and sexy. You don't have to wear a bikini to do that. But thanks Valerie for showing everyone, women can be sexy at any age. They don't have to be rail thin and they don't have to be 20'ish. In fact our life experience and wisdom adds to our sexiness and sassyness!

Now, doesn't that make you want to pass up the candy bar and go exercise!

Dancing is not only fun, but it's exercise too!

2009-03-22T17:51:00.000-07:00

I have always loved to dance. No, I never took dance lessons as a child. We loved music and to dance for fun, but we never had the money, or even suggested, dance lessons.

But that did not stop me in the 70's and 80's! Disco watch out. We had great fun in those days. Dancing was such fun. Hey, we danced all night, or until the "Last Dance" and had to leave the bars. And just as many do now, back then, girls would dance together, just to get out on the dance floor and dance. Did I view dancing as exercise? I doubt it, it was a way to have fun.

I love those inspirational signs that say .... sing like no one is listening, and dance, dance, dance like no one is watching ... That is just about the majority of the dancing I do now, around the house, with no one watching. I love to put on music while cleaning, and jam around the house. Did you see Mamma Mia? I love the song, Dancing Queen, it is a great song with a lot of energy. Joking around the house when alone or kidding around with my husband, I do not think of dancing as exercise, it is just plan fun.

But you know, lately I have been looking for any type exercise tape that is not BORING. I have some I like, such as Leslie Sansone, Walk Away the Pounds, she is great. But to be honest, I get bored with that after a period of time. I even tried the Hip Hop Abs series. It is a workout, and somewhat of a challenge, but that even got boring after a while. Sorry Shaun T.

That is why I have been looking for a variety or a change in exercise tapes. And lately I have been thinking about some dance tapes for exercise.

My sister recently told me she had purchased a dance exercise tape. Not sure which one she purchased, but I found one at Costco the other day and thought, what the heck, I am just building a nice collection. So I purchased a Dance Off the Inches DVD. The one I purchased was the Dance it off Ballroom DVD. Well, I am just glad I can do this in the privacy of my home!!

This dancing is not fun, it is work!

The tape said Ballroom Dancing. I thought, how hard can that be? So I skipped the tutorial section and went straight to the full program. Oh my gosh, it was so hard. And this from a former dancing queen! I tried to do it in my office during my lunch break, but did not have enough room. So this weekend, I took the time to go through the tutorial and the full 40 minute exercise routine. Dancing is no longer fun, it is exercise! I mentioned to my daughter who was home this weekend that I had made it through the tape, and it was not easy. She made the comment, now you know why the dancers look so good and are in such great shape.

I realized while doing the routine, I don't have the coordination I had 25 years ago, nor the speed, but I love a challenge. Doing something like this does give you a greater appreciation for those who enter Dancing with the Stars, most notably the "older" contestants who compete. You have to admire all the contestants for the time and energy they put in the dances.

So, as I "dance, dance, dance with no one watching, I hope to master the Samba, Cha Cha and Jive! I doubt if I take the moves to the dance floor as the instructor suggests, but I hope to exercise some parts of my body while having a little fun. I am visualizing me in one of those great dance outfits they wear on Dancing with the Stars! With that in mind, my shorts should fit this summer.

In checking out the website links, I noticed there is a Country Line Dance DVD! Yew Haw! I think I will try that next! I will keep you posted on my progress. Dance, dance, dance ....... where are my Glucosamine & Chondroitin tablets?

If there is something you want to do, do it - as if it is on your bucket list.

2009-03-08T16:11:00.000-07:00

To me creating a bucket list has been intimidating. Well actually to me creating a list of anything is intimidating, but that is another story. But when I think of that bucket list and either starting one or evaluating something “worthy” as a bucket list item, I often hesitate and doubt myself as to whether it is worthy or should be part of a bucket list.

I was thinking about an event or something I wanted to do today and had a thought. Everything is worthy of being on that “bucket list” if it is something I want to do. Don’t judge, don’t get into what others will think, namely my husband, just put it on the list. I have decided that I need to approach everyday and things I want to do as if they are on my bucket list. If there is something I want to do, short term or long, I am going to start either doing it or putting it on a list, my wish list, and have a LONG bucket list.

If you saw the movie, The Bucket List, I hope you agree with me that it was great and gave you something to think about. It did me, but I am a sucker for sentimental movies. But on the flip side movies or books like this sometimes make me feel like what I do or want to do is insignificant. That is not good and not positive. I had a realization today that my bucket list is mine, and what I want, not what others think it should be. After all it is MY list.

Isn’t life full of what if’s or I wish I had…. Fear is what keeps us from doing so much. I know, it is a great enemy of mine. But today I have decided, when it comes to doing what I want, everything is going to be viewed as a bucket list item. Why limit ourselves to a few items on a list. If I wait till tomorrow or someday, that day may never come. If there is something you want to do – do it. Add it to the list and then mark it off. I do that a lot! That way I accomplished something AND marked it off a list! But seriously, if you write it down you have a better chance that it will be accomplished. Write and believe it.

I love those little pocket notebooks with the ink pens attached. I keep one in my purse. It is my secret bucket list, every little wish I have for my life I note it in that book. At this stage of my life, I need to write it down, I may forget. It never hurts to dream - that is how everything begins, with a thought or a dream. Here’s hoping your dreams all come true, I know mine will, because I am putting them on my bucket list.

More on Swim Skirts!

2009-02-28T06:54:00.000-08:00

Wow, have I gotten a great response to my recent blog on torture and it’s true meaning. If you did not read my most recent blog, do so. It is about swimsuit shopping.

I received a tremendous amount of emails telling me how much it made them laugh and oh how much they could relate. Bingo on all counts. I love to make people laugh, and we all need to learn how to laugh more at life and ourselves. But it is fun to hear from all the women who can relate. It tells me that this is being read and being sought by women of my generation.

BUT, what is too funny is the number of emails and comments I have received concerning the section on skirt swimsuits. Either others replied to me or through a friend that they had a skirt suit. Sorry ladies, I just had to add that section to the piece. I have a friend who several years ago was discussing clothing for large women. She is so funny in her description of any event, and her story about thinking of the dancing hippos in regards to skirt swimsuits continues to pop in my mind every time I look at a swim suit with a skirt.

But I must admit, I too have skirt cover ups and a swim skirt. We own a boat, so there are times where I just don’t want everything hanging out for all to see, and it seems more and more there is more to see!! There was a time when I did not like anything but a two piece, any more fabric than that seemed like wearing clothes to the pool or beach. But as I have gotten older, those tan strips across my midriff are not cute! So I have moved over to the tankini and love them! Interesting how opinions can change!

On our recent cruise with several Bikinis and Bifocals women I made note of what type suits were around the pool. And believe me there are all types. Several women have noted to me there are some great sites to purchase suits, travelsmith.com, landsend.com and even victoriasecrets.com carries swim skirts!!! So ladies I apologize for the joke on the swim skirt, they are cute and can be sexy. Hey, even Victoriasecret.com had tummy control swim skirts, now that’s my kind of suit! I even found sites that sell really sexy suits that had thong swim skirts. Or, back to reality here, there are the suits with shorts that are cute if you need something to wear and look sporty such as some on suimsuitsforall.com or alwaysforme.com. There are so many to choose from I would venture to say that we can all find something for our needs and taste.

Of course there will always be those cute young bodies around the pool with the bikinis, or a few thongs that make us wish for our younger days. But then again there will always be those who show up at the pool and did not have sense enough to keep a cover up on! I believe they are put there to make us feel great and grateful about how we look. What did I read once, the number one reason for dieting was a class reunion? Well I think the number one reason for diet and exercise is a vacation that includes pool time - swim skirt or no swim skirt!

Have you found some great swim suits or sites that carry some great suits? Let me know, I would love to share with others. Have a great day!

Skirt or No Skirt

2009-02-18T16:57:00.000-08:00

Wow did I get a great deal of response to my last blog - What is Torture ..... Apparently many women out there can relate and agree. But, many women I know and don't know have passed on that they purchased a "Skirt" swimsuit!

Don't get me wrong, I think those type suits that are out now look great, but a friend of mine mentioned the dancing hippos to me several years ago and now that is all I can think of when I see those type suits.

I was in Chicago last week and did some shopping. Many stores had out swim suits! I got my courage up, plus I had nothing else to do that evening, and tried on some suits. And, I found a few that I liked. So, at the end of the day I had purchased 3 new suits.

Have a place you like to shop, online or off for suits? I found one that had a tag that claimed to be a Miracle suit. No miracles happened when I put on the suit, but I did purchase it.

I would love to hear from some of my readers as to some places to check out. Also, what do you think about age appropriate suits? Or what about those Skirt Swimsuits? Have some favorites?

As I mentioned before there is Travelsmith.com and someone suggested AlwaysForMe.com for larger size suits, check it out, it is a nice site. As I mentioned I purchased a Miraclesuit, they have a site, plus many stores carry this brand. Any others you can recommend?

I will be attending our Bikinis and Bifocals cruise this weekend and give you an update on the status of swimsuits for women of the baby boomer generation. As we use Bikinis in our name, we want to look great, whether in clothes or a swimsuit. It may not be a bikini, but I still want to look good, hey sexy if possible!

What is Torture? Let me tell you the true meaning of torture . . .

2009-02-03T17:20:00.000-08:00

I was listening to the radio the other day as I was out running errands and caught the end of a news item where they were discussing the topic of what qualifies as torture. Although the discussion seemed interesting and spirited, I was busy planning my day in my mind. I am going on a winter vacation in February and was out running errands and picking up items for the trip.

One item I need for this trip is a new swim suit. As I started my look for such an item, and going thru the ordeals etc of shopping for a swimsuit, I quickly discovered the true meaning of torture. The discussion on the radio did not even cover the true meaning of torture as far as I am concerned. Later that day, I thought, huh, they need to talk to a 53 year old woman shopping for a swim suit in the middle of January, NOW that is torture.

In fact, let me describe for you my idea of a day of torture.

First of all, where I live, in January you have to wear several layers of clothing when you go out because the temperature is typically in the 20’s. Plus socks and more often than not some type of boots. Not the best clothing attire to wear when you are going to shop for something that requires you removing all or most of your clothes. Step one in Torture, set the stage!

Also, I would think that when torturing someone that the site should emulate and enhance the torture. What better venue than a brightly lit dressing room! They are torture enough when you are trying on clothes, but trying on a swim suit in the middle of January? UGHHH. Your skin is at its whitest, you are still fighting post holiday weight gain and to save time, you probably won’t take off your knee socks. What a picture – NOW that is torture.

In my life, torture is, being honest and getting a size larger than last year, getting in the dressing room, taking off all your clothes and when you try on the first suit, it is too small. NOW, that is torture. To add insult to injury, there is no sales girl around when you need one, so you have to put all your clothes back on to go out and get more suits, a size larger. THAT is torture.

As I was running my errands, I stopped in a small shopping center. As I parked my car, I noticed a shop that I had not noticed before. It was a swimsuit store, I don't remember the exact name. I looked at the sign a couple times and thought, hey, maybe this is fate, perhaps it was meant for me to go in there and find the perfect swim suit. So I bravely walked over and into the shop.

After I got inside the door I quickly discovered the shop was one that sold swim suits for “swimmers”, you know those ‘Speedo’ type suits that the professional swimmers wear. My first impulse was to quickly turn and run out. But there were a couple sales women looking at me and I did not want to look foolish. So I stepped further in and thought, “oh no, this is awful”. The sales girl walked over and asked if she could help me, with a tone and look on her face that said, ‘yeah right, this lady must be looking for directions’. More torture.

I muttered something like – “Do you sell swim suits other than this type, these all look like they are for “serious” swimmers? I’m looking for, you know, swim suits that are appropriate for lying around the pool and drinking margaritas”? Dead silence and she just looked at me. I quickly thumbed thru a rack and found a tankini and said “oh, yes, like this, I will just look around.” One thing I discovered the people who work in this store have NO sense of humor. People with no sense of humor towards life are Torture to me.

Looking thru the rack, I quickly found that the only “poolside appropriate” suits were ugly and almost screamed; NO I DON’T SWIM FOR FITNESS. Again, I just wanted to run out, but walked around sort of looking. When I noticed the one sales girl had gone to the back of the store and the other was helping a customer, I quickly walked out the door.
I had to chuckle to myself, as I walked away, another method of torture, put the person in a very uncomfortable situation and don’t help them at all – watch them squirm. TORTURE!

As I have mentioned in previous blogs, I love to shop. I love the hunt, I love to just look. But the one thing I DO NOT love to shop for is a swim suit. THAT is torture. That day I did discover a few stores had some suits in stock, I guess getting ready for spring break shoppers. But those I found where both cute and very small sizes or very ugly in my size! And to add to insult, many had those “skirts” on them. Are they kidding?!? All those skirts remind me of are those dancing hippos in the cartoons my daughter watched every weekend. Remember them? They had bathing suits with the little tutu skirts? I refuse to be reminded of those dancing hippos every time I put on my swim suit. How cruel.

Another shop I stopped in had suits but they wanted a small fortune for them. If I am going to spend a hundred dollars plus for a suit, it better make me look awfully damn good. When I put one on that is very expensive and it does not look any better than a cheaper one – that is torture. One site a friend recommended is travelsmith.com. They have some great items, to include swimsuits for travel.

I do have some nice swim suits I purchased last year; I have not had the courage to try them on yet. But - I do believe they will fit, I do believe they will fit, I do, I do, I do. So I have something to take on the trip. But it would be nice to have a new swim suit. I have never had many cover-ups etc, but perhaps now is the time to invest in some really cute cover ups. Now those should be easy and not torture to shop for. I am a woman; I will not succumb to torture!

Waitress, another Margarita please!!!
Stay warm,

Contact Someone - and I don't mean email them!

2009-01-18T05:25:00.000-08:00

Isn't it interesting how life just seems to fall into what you are thinking about? As I was getting my coffee this morning I was going over in my head a thought about this generation, relationships, and how they communicate vs how my generation communicates. For clarification, what is my generation? I am 53, so I am a baby boomer who was not raised on any type of computer equipment what so ever. The computer age did not come into the workforce until I was in my mid 30's! After I got my coffee and then turned on my computer, the first email I read was something about being a friend and being there for one another. I love these type emails, but I had to wonder if the younger generation really appreciate what these emails are all about?

It is interesting to me how they communicate and I wonder so often will it will effect how people relate etc in the future? My daughter and I were trying to make some plans the other day and she had mentioned doing something with a friend. I suggested she get with her and see what was up. She had not left the room, but a few minutes later she said, "oh, Sandra is ....". I said "WHAT", how do you know that? When did you call her? My daughter said, I didn't, I texted her. Ahhhh, I did not even notice her doing that. What happened to giving a girlfriend a call about getting together and during that same call finding out about a great sale at ..... or the latest update on her life! Is this generation missing out?

One thing I know they are to the point. You don't go on and on in a text. It is question, answer. You can be involved in a conversation with a person, answer a friend's text message, and keep on doing with what you are doing. Is this good? Are we totally engaged with the person we are with if we are constantly answering others and engaging in conversation with others at the same time? The jury is out on this as far as I am concerned.

As I have been considering this topic I have stumbled across articles that discuss good communication skills, finding websites that focus on relationships and social media groups that discuss good communications as a top priority. It is apparent to me, that communication and what denotes good or acceptable communication is under discussion by many others.

As an office manager I have found myself giving new and not always younger employees directions on a topic and many times include the task that they contact a particular individual or group. So many times when they report back to me on their progress and I inquire as to the contacts and the results. To my dismay, they often respond, "I emailed her/him, but he has not emailed me back". So, that is acceptable? To me that is a cop out. I so often go on to explain that in knowing your audience that an email will not always get you results. This generation expects instant reply, instant gratification, etc. What happened to realizing that others are busy and can't stop everything just for us? Some things take more than a one or two word reply, and you can get so much more and learn more in, don't be surprised now, in a one on one conversation!!! After some discussion on what I expect and why I want them to do some contacts in person, believe it or not, I have had employees go right back out and send another email! Hello! Let's go over this one more time! I guess I needed to explain it all in an email!

Move towards the positive, you will have more energy!

2009-01-09T07:45:00.001-08:00

As I began my new habits for the new year, I had an "ah-ha" moment the other day.

One of my goals for the new year is to clear out the clutter. Each day I have cleaned out a closet, pantry, anything where "stuff" has just piled up. Each day, no matter what I am doing, or what I have done, it seems that when I begin my clearing out process on an item, I seem to gain a great deal of energy.

This happened the other day, I was tired, we had been out late the night before and it was a rather slow day around the house, but when I decided to attack a new area for clearing out and organizing, I seemed to get a renewed burst of energy. Mid-way in the process of clearing out, I realized how energized I felt. It was then, I realized one of my "ah-ha's". I mentioned in an earlier blog, move towards the positive instead of away from the negative and you may have better results. Well, it was that day that I was living the reality of that belief. I realized, moving towards the positive is energizing and gives you more energy. Moving toward being organized is so positive that it gives me energy instead of bogging me down with a task that I don't like. In the past I seemed to have focused on the clutter and the confusion and could not seem to move away from that. But as I focus on the positive - being organized, clean, clear, it seems to give me more energy. The results are so positive and a motivation to keep going.

I have been focused on this, and it has cleared out a lot in my house. So much so, I was concerned that my husband would not be able to budge the trash can and get it to the curb for garbage day! That baby was full. But he never complained, and I noticed on garbage day it was at the curb that morning.

Also, as I move towards a clearer living space I am also focusing on living healthier. No more old stale food staring me back from the pantry, plastic dishes that are not healthy to use, or clutter that just makes keeping things put in their place difficult. Each day I am making my life more manageable and more organized. Also, there is no level of work that I view as a success and another as not. In other words, if one day I only have time to clear out the veggie crisper's in the frig, then that is a success. Large areas such as closets etc are great when cleared and organized, but a drawer or some files is a great success too.

This train of thought is a little more difficult with exercise, however. I was riding the exercise bike the other day and really wanted to quit, so I thought well I will try to focus on the positive. So I closed my eyes, peddled like crazy and thought about being able to fit in a bathing suit this spring. It helped a little, but I am not sure if it was a positive thought of my vision in a new suit, or the fear of looking awful in a new suit that motivated me to peddle faster. Oh, well, everything is not a perfect fit, but I sure like doing things that now energize me rather than focusing on the negative and being discouraged from trying.

Find something positive you want to bring into your life this year and move towards it. There are plenty of negative things to focus on, and they seem to just stare us back in the face, an usually win in staying. Focus on the positive, it makes things much more fun.

Happy New Year

2008 was great, what is your plan for 2009!

2008-12-31T06:38:00.000-08:00

I don’t know about you, but as far as I am concerned 2008 was great. I do not waste my time crying over spilt milk in regards to what went wrong in my life, or as far as that goes in 2008, but I like to rejoice everyday about the things that went right and the possibilities of tomorrow. I am watching less and less TV news and listening to the radio news because all they want to talk about is the negative, what went wrong etc.

This is the holiday season, and since it should be a good time of the year, spend time this new years living in the good memories of the year. Don’t get me wrong, my life is not all perfect. I have as many challenges and setbacks as everyone on the street, I just choose to not let it determine my outlook and disposition on life.

As I have said over and over to many I encounter – you have two choices everyday – be positive or negative, which do you choose?

As far as 2009 is concerned, I am so excited. A new year with new possibilities. What could be greater? I view the New Year as a clean slate. A time to sweep out the old and bring in the new – new possibilities of great things to come!!!

I read an interesting article online the other day and have been thinking it about it since. I liked what it was saying about instead of New Year resolutions that focus on something negative, set goals towards something positive. The article said it is always easier to move towards something than away from something! So in other words visualize something positive you want to work towards, not something negative you want to work away from. Example, instead of working to lose weight – move away from being overweight etc, set a goal as to how you want to look, live, feel – in other words move towards something positive. This thought really got me thinking about the New Year and my plan for 2009.

I love the way things come together in my life. A couple years ago I discovered a thing called a Vision Board. That concept focuses around visualizing on what you want in life. In other words moving towards something. This concept as to how to approach the New Year is along that line. So this year I am working on my plan for myself, not just for the year, but a lifestyle that will carry on to my goals. Setting up towards the positive is a better indicator you will succeed. I have done this several times over the past couple years and it works. I will not do this for the New Year as I plan my 2009.

So, what are you plans for 2009? 2009 will be a great year, every year I am alive is as far as I am concerned. This year focus on the positive and see just how big an impact it will have on your life. Remember, some days it may be difficult, but make it part of your plan for 09 to be positive and move towards positive goals.

Some sites that help on this approach are of course our site www.bikinisandbifocals.com, but others are www.mydailyinsights.com, www.AsAManThinketh.net, www.johnassaraf.com and www.thesecret.tv to name a few.

Happy New Year!

All I want for Christmas are the "Priceless" gifts.

2008-12-21T06:39:00.000-08:00

I love those commercials that go thru the various items and their prices and then end with a moment or item that they term “priceless”. I was dwelling on that thought the other day and thought to myself, I want those “priceless” items for Christmas.

At this stage of my life there is really nothing I need. If I want it, I buy it. Don’t get me wrong, I am not a shopaholic, or buy a lot of junk. Actually I am the opposite, I am very thrifty, and a bargain shopper, but I digress, not the point of this blog at all.

The point is, at this time of the year I want the “priceless” gifts that money can’t buy. I want that opportunity to observe my precious little granddaughter show that honest moment of delight when she gets something that is totally unexpected, not expensive, but the joy of a child that is priceless. I want that uninvited hug from her for no reason, just because and she squeezes as tight as she can, that means it is a real hug. I have watched her give those to her papa and you can tell there is more love behind that squeeze then words can describe. I want a hug from an in-law that normally doesn’t hug, or an “I love you” from a friend or relative that normally does not express that emotion. I want to experience Christmas morning with my daughter and that again this year, she will again wake up before 8 in the morning without anyone telling her to, just because it is Christmas morning. I want to give someone a gift who does not give me a gift. I want to be standing someplace in my house and hear laughter coming from every room when I have a house full of people. I want to spend more time with friends laughing, watching movies, or just hanging out. I want to see my mom and dad healthy. I want my husband to relax more and worry less.

All my “priceless” gifts don’t come with a bow or in a gift bag. In fact, many I will not get on Christmas day. But at this stage of my life, it is those “priceless” gifts that keep me going, all year long and mean more to me than anything money can buy.

“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.”

Here is wishing you many “priceless” gifts or moments this holiday season.

How can anyone be anyone be in a bad mood when listening to Christmas Music?

2008-12-13T04:07:00.000-08:00

I don’t know about you, but now is the time of year when I am in my car that I either pop in a Christmas CD in my car stereo or tune the radio to a channel that plays non-stop Christmas music. As I was driving around the other day running some errands, I was listening to one of my favorite Christmas CDs. Several cars were slow in moving on when the light turned green and there was a couple times some drivers almost cut me off or I observed something they did that was not too smart. But I realized, as I listened to that beautiful music, there was no way I could get upset. After all, how can you flip someone the bird or honk your horn in frustration when you are listening to Josh Groban sing “ Thankful “ or Martina McBride sing “It’s the most wonderful time of the year …”. I realized it is impossible -for me it is.

So, I had a thought the other day, perhaps if we all listened to Christmas music all the time, instead of “My sweetheart broke my heart and my dog died” type stuff, and we listened to music that speaks of love, family and giving selflessly to others we would all have a much better day. What a novel thought, huh! Listen to music that puts you in a good mood, or a sentimental mood, or a mood that makes you want to do something nice for someone! I love it.

I know, I know, my sensible friends are saying, “well, you can’t do that, everyone will get sick of that stuff, etc.” But you have to agree, it is a thought that has merit. Everyone wants to dwell on what terrible things might happen, but you know me, I want to look for the bright side or the positive that may happen. I have a motivational tape that talks about your control over your mood. At one point the speaker tell everyone to stand up straight and put a big smile on your face. He says “now don’t stop smiling, but at the same time I want you to try and be angry, try and think frustrating thoughts and get upset. The speaker went on to say, “it is difficult to be angry or get upset when you place yourself in a position of being happy, being positive etc.” That is the same with listening to this type music. Instead of listening to the news (and that is always depressing) or listening to broken heart type songs, listen to something that makes you feel good.

I have a little plague I purchased years ago, although it is a Christmas item, I leave it on my buffet or bookcase year-round, the verse on the plague goes like this –

“Every time a hand reaches out to help another …. That is Christmas.
Every time someone puts anger aside and strives for understanding … that is Christmas.
Every time people forget their differences and realize their love for each other …that is Christmas.

Everyday can be Christmas. Keep the spirit all year long, happy holidays. Be safe.

A different twist on giving thanks.

2008-11-27T06:11:00.000-08:00

No matter how much you may try to avoid a holiday, no matter where you are or what you are doing, it is a holiday. The day seems different, the air, the way you feel. No matter what – a holiday is a holiday. I know that because I have had holidays that weren't quite the traditional holiday and ones that I wanted to forget. This year both my daughter and husband are away. I have also had holidays away from home or other major loved ones where sick, just to name a few out of the out of the box holidays I have had. And no matter how much I tried to avoid the holiday or the ache of an absence, it was the holiday. So this year, I have been thinking a great deal about thanksgiving and a different way of looking at this important holiday.

Instead of dwelling on what you don’t have or experiencing an event you don’t like, today, or any day you read this, turn everything around to a thank you. I got home this morning and the house was cold, and empty. Instead of complaining about the cold, I said a thank you that I have a furnace that works and the money to pay the bill. Instead of feeling lonely today, I am thankful I have an independent daughter who can think on her feet and not need me, a husband who is good to his mother (as well as all the women in his life) and a wonderful supportive family.

So today, instead of complaining about the dishes that need to be cleaned up or the mess the kids left this year, say thanks for all the people in your life that helped make the mess. And that they all have the abilities to eat and make a mess on their own.

As you get up to go to work, and most of us really don’t want to get up in the morning, whether it is to go to work or an after Thanksgiving sale, say thanks that you have a job to go to and the money to spend on a sale. Turn any possible negative thought into a thank you. Or look at that moment as a positive and say thank you. Other examples? While sitting in traffic, be thankful you have a car, enjoy listening to a song or enjoy the time alone with your child or loved one. Every day, every moment we have so much to be thankful for. Being thankful, again that attitude of gratitude, opens up so much for in your life.

If you have a roof over your head, clothes on your back and change in your pocket – you are richer than 95% of the world’s population. Today, and every day, say thank you for all the blessing you have – because we are all blessed in so many ways. It seems it is too easy to forget how very blessed we all are.

Thanks for reading my blog, my thoughts, and enjoy this holiday season no matter where you are or what you are doing. There are men and women today away from home protecting all that we have. Be sure to say a prayer for their safety and a thank you for all the sacrifices they make to protect our freedoms. Happy Thanksgiving.

What do you wear on a rainy day?

2008-11-13T15:30:00.000-08:00

I don't know about you, but on a rainy day I look for a bright, colorful outfit to wear. It amazes me how, if it is raining, everyone thinks that is a call to be depressed and negative AND dress in dark/drab outfits. I like to shake things up a bit, so I look for something bright.

Color can help shape the mood you project for the day. If it is raining, do you automatically determine that your day will be a downer?

Where I live, we have experienced a long dry spell. When it did finally rain recently it was a blessing as far as I am concerned. BUT, when I got in the elevator the first day of that much needed rain, I was greeted by others who said, "Yeah right, nice day, it's raining" and "It would be a nice day if it weren't raining." I left the elevator thinking -are these people nuts? We have
gone how many days without rain? Plants and trees are dying, yards are like a dust bowl and they are complaining about rain? Inside I was jumping up and down with joy. In fact, I had forgotten my umbrella that day and actually did not mind walking to the car in the rain. To me, it was a blessing to be rained on after such a dry spell. All part of living an attitude of gratitude as they say!

I have to admit, being a product of our society, that most rainy mornings my first thought turn to my dark/black clothes. After all, it is raining! But years ago, a speaker touched on being in control of your attitude and discussed the phenomena of how when it rains people automatically determine they are depressed and it is a reason to be gloomy. The speaker suggested, next time it rains, wear something bright, and begin with that decision that your day/attitude will be upbeat.

So, after that fleeting thought of wearing something dark passes through my mind, my next thoughts are the words of that speaker. It is a wake of call of sorts that I am in control of my mood and outlook, not the weather. Why let some rain determine that I will be down for the day. Instead, I look for something bright and cheery.

Something I noticed, that when it is raining and I wear something bright I always get remarks from others who I encounter. I will get comments from others such as, "Hey look at you all bright and cheery today, or "You are the bright spot in our day," or "Wow, what are you doing with such bright colors on today?" If I have the time, I make comments such as, "Rain doesn't mean you have to be gloomy." "Or, I just act surprised that there is a reason to be anything other than positive for the day."

So next time it rains, select something bright, like the color of the flowers the rain will help produce, or select a colorful outfit and use that as a constant reminder that day that only you control your mood and outlook, not the weather, not others, but YOU.

Have a great day!

Having Fun For a Cause.

2008-11-08T05:27:00.000-08:00

It seems everyday more and more when I open the local newspaper, local and national magazines etc, there are more and more fundraiser events. If you are looking for something to do, and want to contribute to a cause, there is probably something going on in your area a weekend or an evening this month.

Some events include something for your health such as a walk/run event. Not only do you contribute something for a charity but you will also get up early and do something for your health. That's a win/win for everyone. I love those type events.

But more and more there are events that range from $20 upwards that you can attend, contribute to a cause and have a fun night out.

Our organization, Bikinis and Bifocals worked with a group of our women, the South End Girls, and hosted a fun event for women on a Sunday afternoon in September. It was a great success. We had a huge crowd, raised more money than projected and saw old friends and made new ones. Not only did the organization we were supporting, Gilda's Club, benefit but we felt like we did too.

Having worked on several community fundraisers, I quickly realized that these events could never be a reality without great sponsors. Our event last month for Gilda's Club was sponsored by the Kentucky AAA and Dr. Gerald O'Daniel as well as Texas Road House. Their support was awesome and we truly appreciated their generosity. Along with their support a variety of businesses throughout the community were very generous in donating a wide variety of items for our fundraiser.

There is an event next week in our area to raise money for the Center for Women and Families. It sounds interesting, different and fun. A local limo service is having their garage turned into a gala location! That will be interesting to see. The event is called the R&R Limousine Driving Home a Difference Garage Gala on November 15. They are going to have two live bands, food, etc. All for just a $20 donation in advance! Where can you go for $20 these days and get all this. And again you are helping a great cause. I have a link in this blog if you want more details.

If you have never attended anything like this, they also have raffles or silent auctions. This is somewhat like shopping, and everyone knows how much I love to shop. Oftentimes the items are unique and well worth the donation. I have won a day at the race track, beauty treatments, gift certificates to name a few.

Another thing I have found from attending, or volunteering, at events such as this you meet those who are involved with the organization and learn if it is something you want to get involved in. You can learn a lot about the people and the organization. Some I have found are not for me or my money and others have shown me they are passionate about the cause and their mission and I target my talents and money to them.

Looking for something to do over the weekend or an evening during the week? Check your local newspaper or business journal. And of course you can check online too. But most publications are always willing to post info about a charity event. Being a big believer in giving back, if you don't at this time in your life have time to volunteer for a community effort, perhaps attending one of your choice this year will be your way to give back, and have fun!

To those who volunteer and donate to a community cause or national charity - Thank You! Every donation of time or money makes a difference. Have a great week.

Save the Ta Ta's

2008-10-12T05:41:00.000-07:00

I saw a bumper sticker the other day that said SAVE THE TA TA'S! I thought what a great bumper sticker. Get attention about a very important aspect of a woman's life with humor.

This month is breast cancer awareness month. And this past weekend was our area's annual Race for the Cure Komen Walk. What is so awesome to me is not just the women battling this terrible disease, but all the family members out there showing their support to the women they love. Saturday was a true testament of love. I saw men out there who have never been to anything like this, you could tell by the way they were dressed, but they were there as support to the women they love.

Love and positive support is such a strong drug. Optimism and a positive attitude say that they, as a team, will beat this. And that is so important to a woman. Probably in some ways more important than the drugs they take.

You know these ta ta's can bring down or stop otherwise very strong and intelligent men. I even say a guy with a t-shirt that said "I love boobs". Men can be so simple. I wore a rather low cut blouse the other day when flying to Chicago. Most times no one says a word to me, but this time I had several men strike up conversations with me and one offered to share a taxi! Wow these things are gold. I just wish I had these 34C's when I was 18, I would ruled the world!

This month make your appointment for your annual mammogram if you have not done so yet. Take care of yourself and save the ta ta's. They are a piece of art to me and your life may depend on it.

Pass some laws that really matter!

2008-10-04T05:53:00.000-07:00

Most who know me, know, that I just can't help finding something funny to say about most situations, even about something as awful as this financial crisis currently going on. Some would say that is the sign of a sick mind, but I say you have to laugh to keep from crying some days!

I was just thinking yesterday as I was driving home and listening to the latest opinions on the "Bill" currently being passed, you know they should pass some things into law that really matter like:

- All garments must contain at least 2% spandex
- Botox injections are covered under our health insurance
- Plastic surgery is covered under our health insurance (dollar limit of course)
- All cosmetics are tax exempt (a necessity)
- No photos of women taken from behind will ever be published in the newspaper
- All shoe styles will have heel height options
- All research money will be devoted to Breast Cancer Research and a Diet pill that allows you to eat what you want, be a size 8 AND have no side effect!
Just to name a few!

I'll stop there, but I am on a roll here. I would love to hear what you think, but it should be on the light side.

You know, life sure sends us a great deal to worry about etc, but we need to step back, but things in perspective and find a way to laugh everyday.

I find many people complain, complain and get themselves into such a funk. There is always something to complain about. But doing that just put you deeper in a state that does not allow you to move on. Look at situations, make a decision to correct or accept and move on.

I am not saying what is going on in the country is not serious. Oh yes it is. But that is another blog. My point today is always find something to laugh at each day. It relieves some stress and helps open the mind to resolve the issues that need to be resolved.

And figure out a way to come up with some extra money for those necessities like botox, expensive extra lift bras, ...... ! Have a great day and find a way to laugh or make someone else laugh today!

What's your theme song?

2008-09-25T02:55:00.001-07:00

I attended a seminar recently and at one point the presenter asked the group "now, we want everyone to think about what is your theme song and share with the group". Instantly several in the group raised their hands and gave songs that were very inspirational or spiritual in nature. And of course the group ohhh'd and ahhh'd. But I'm thinking, are these people serious?!? The only song that came to my mind was the Alabama song that goes "I'm in a hurry and don't' know why, rush and rush ......."

Later after I left that seminar I had time, while driving to my next destination, to think about that song again. I did some reflection on my life and why that song came to mind. People say to me all the time, how do you do all that you do? My reply inside my head is - there is another way? I am a multi-tasker at her best. I love having a lot of things going on in my life at once. I admit, sometimes it is overwhelming, but I just take a deep breath and say o.k., this will all get done, and it does.

I do walk away some days and say I don't know why I get myself into all this, but if I really examine the situation, I admit that I love giving back to the community, I love meeting new people and I love to be challenged. It just gets overwhelming at times.

The furniture in my house that never gets worn out is the lounge chairs, the extra couches, anything that equates to long periods of rest!!! I just don't have time. Hmmm, I hear my theme song spring up in the back of my mind again, I'm in a hurry ......

You know, as a woman, don't we all have too much to do. But I believe we do this by choice because we have that nature that does not allow us to over look others, or a situation that needs our attention. I have gotten better about taking care of myself as I rush and rush. That is so important. And that is why I love this blog and our website. It does cause me to rush and rush but it is for me, and others and ......

My checkbook may not get posted every month (new theme song "Tomorrow, Tomorrow" from Annie) but I do get a lot done for myself and others. And isn't that what it is all about? My theme song may not be some spiritual or inspiration one you hear on the radio, but it does have a lot behind it in the way I use the time I have.

It is 5 a.m. as I write this, won't have time later today, "I'm in a hurry ........

The lessons I still am learning

2008-09-22T17:53:00.000-07:00

Looking back on that night that I said goodbye to my daughter in Berlin I have often thought of several things - I won't touch her again until December, how much I appreciate someone when I can't see them, and just how precious she is to me but how often I take her and others for granted. But one thing that I have often reflected upon was what that moment taught me and really brought some things home to me that I really could not understand or appreciate before.

Knowing when I hugged her it was going to be a long time before I did again, made that hug so very special. It was not one of those hugs/kiss that is on the run. But it was one that was with feeling and at the same time realizing how much this person meant to me. How often do we really hug someone like that. Since then I have thought about my friends who never get to hug their children or a loved one again and I now have more compassion for those who lose someone. That is one good lesson that hug and goodbye taught me that night. Empathy is sometimes difficult for me, but that moment taught me a great lesson in empathy.

Looking back on moments in our lives or reflecting upon a moment at any given time can often reveal to us a lesson to be learned. And isn't it those hard lessons that we learn are the ones we really remember and learn from? I told my daughter once, the best thing about making a mistake is - if you learn from it - you never make it again. Many moments teach us lessons we learn from and benefit from.

I can't tell you how much I think about that hug that night. Letting go of a child like that is so difficult. Yes, I know, she is now 20, but it is still very difficult. I now have such profound compassion for the moms who say goodbye to their child who is a soldier, or the wife who's husband is leaving again for several months.

Another lesson it taught me was the value of touch. I am not the touchy feely type. Some of my friends are real huggers. But I was not raised in a family that way. But you know, it does mean a lot to really reach out to others and touch them with a gentle hand or give them a hug when they need one. Now that I can't touch her, I realize how valuable that gift is.

I guess my mother was right, no matter how old your children are, you still worry about them. Darn, I hate it when she is right. Those worries are just different, but filled with love.

There are so many moments in our life that we view as inconvenient and invasive, but even those moments can perhaps teach us something. That was a profound moment for me and has had a very positive impact of me. Instead of just raw emotion, I have realized a lot from that moment and value it even more. I look forward to hugging her again when she gets home. Diane

I will sacrifice, but I have my limits too!

2008-08-17T05:47:00.000-07:00

Our youngest daughter is spending the fall semester in Germany this year. And, being my daughter, she has far too many items she wants to take and too little suitcase space. She could never back pack across Europe.

My husband and I are going over later for a vacation and will see her a few days while in Europe. He made the comment the other day, "well, with international flights we each can take two suitcases, we don't each need two suitcases, we can take items over in the second suitcase for her."

WAIT JUST ONE MINUTE. I have sacrificed for that child from the time I was diabetic while pregnant and did not get to eat one sweet item, stayed up nights with her when sick, gave up most of my vacation days each year to be room mother, attended field trips and rode those awful school buses, purchased her items and not myself and NOW you want me to give up one of my suitcases that I could use for packing for a two week vacation in Europe? Sorry, but I draw the line there. I can only sacrifice so much in a life time!

My husband sees essentials for a trip as being enough underwear for each day, a couple pairs of slacks and some shirts. Yeah, right. I need to be prepared for any occasion, after all I was a girl scout leader and always told the girls to be prepared! One suitcase for Europe is really cutting into my packing options.

Plus you always have to have extra room in the event you want to bring back items, right! Just thinking ahead. So, give up one of my suitcases? I told my daughter, I love you, but I may have to draw the line here. Well, I got that doe eyed look from her and her smile that says, my mom is crazy but I love her. Now I am trying to figure out how I can give her half the second suitcase space. What a mom will do for her children!!

Developing My New Habit

2008-08-13T17:05:00.000-07:00

Well a week has gone by and I am doing a good job at starting a new habit, and trying to drift away from an old favorite habit. I have been exercising every morning instead of sitting on the coach and watching the news or surfing thru other exercise programs. In fact, it was not as hard as I thought it would be to change that habit. It sure makes me feel better starting the day by doing an exercise program.

Changing a routine takes the acceptance of adjusting my schedule. But you know, if I have to change it up a little that is o.k. Sticking to something, for no real reason is really silly. But we do get caught up in that - need to get to work by a certain time, leave by a certain time, etc. Well, by changing this a little for the betterment of me is worth it. In fact, it sure gives me more energy. I thought it might make me tired starting my day off that way, but quite the opposite, it gives me more energy in the day!!

And as I have said in other blogs, looking at things in a more positive manner and having a positive outlook on something you are about to embark usually turns out for the good, not the bad. I had made up my mind to change, and it was something I wanted to do and make work and it is working. Some good things that you don't expect oftentimes comes from changes. Sleeping better, etc. AND, I have a TV in my office, so I have the exerise DVD in my computer and the news on the TV so that way I can mutli-task. Isn't life great!

I just received an email today that I am listed in an article "Top 100 Women's Health Blogs" under Fit and over 40 section. Isn't that great? Gives me an added boost to get up in the morning and exercise!!

Another thing my step daughter and I have done is we are now doing the local charity walks. It has been great fun. It is nice spending some time with her and doing a walk for a cause. Seems like there are more of those around than I had thought. Check the ones out in your community, it might be a good way to have a goal and a reason to walk. Caitie and I are making plans to start a group of women in our area to train for the triple crown of walks/races in our area in the spring. I did this several years ago and lost several INCHES in my hips. And, unfortuantely, I need to do that again. I had joined a group several years ago, but it was in another part of town and a long drive. With gas at $4 a gallon, and our time is busy, we thought it would be fun to start up a group in our area. Watch for more on that.

Habits, aren't they great, ones we love, ones that define us and ones we break. Have a great day.

Break an old habit, start a new habit

2008-08-06T17:09:00.000-07:00

Well, I have come to the realization I am going to have to change one of my beloved old habits and start a new habit. I just hope I love it as much. That old habit is fixing my morning coffee, sitting on the couch, sipping coffee, watching the morning news, and easing into the day. I love starting the day that way. I am all alone in that section of the house, all the other members of my family are asleep and it is my time. I love it. I know, pretty simple, but hey, I love that time of the day. Any many times it is 5 a.m. or earlier.

Well, now you ask, what am I going to change? I am going to now start my day with brewing some coffee, have a few sips and slip down to my office and put in an exercise tape, exercise, and at the same time watch the early morning news. Sure doesn't sound as much fun to me, but I have decided I really need to try and start my day this way. I am not getting any exercise during the evening so I have decided to shake things up.

I have to admit, this morning it was o.k. I got through it, but I did not get started as early as I wanted and I got to work later than I prefer. But hey, at least I exercised. And you know, I felt better today. I think this may start my day off better and hopefully help get me back into a regular exercise routine. If I can have a habit of not exercising, I hope to now start a habit of morning exercise. I have resisted giving up my old morning routine. There have even been some mornings I have sipped coffee and watched various exercise programs! But looking over my day and what would be a good time to exercise, etc, I kept coming back to the morning hours as a possibility. So here I am, starting a new habit.

I have typically been a person who exercises regularly, walks a lot etc. But lately I have really fallen away from that. Recently, I have been thinking about this a great deal. Making a decision to make a change is the first step. Now I just need to stick with it and change my mind set about the day. I am also working on my mindset of focusing on eating right.

I find a lot of inspiration in various websites, articles, magazines etc. Several have been on our site, such as "Exercise Buddies", "Joint Friendly Workouts" and many others in our Health and Wellness Section. Another thing I am doing is keeping a journal. So we will see how this new habit goes and if it becomes an old habit. I will keep you posted on my progress.

With all the running around I do ...

2008-08-02T04:59:00.002-07:00

As I was driving home Friday afternoon, my mind was wondering over some past and future events and, as so often I do, my thoughts led to something totally off the topic. I was thinking how busy I am, how I am always running around involved in something, and I thought "with all the running around I do, you would think my pants wouldn't be so tight!"

Like so many women my age I am fighting the battle of weight gain. It is not like I do nothing and the cause is inactivity etc. My life is quite the opposite. I am constantly going someplace, juggling a busy schedule etc. But now I also have to juggle the dilema of what pants fit this week!!! My choices of late are getting smaller and smaller.

Thinking about this issue, I had to admit to myself, my eating habits have probably contibuted to this problem.

One thing that really impacts my eating habits, and in turn the number of pants in my closet that fit, is this busy lifestyle. I don't' like to cook and when I am running (busy I mean, I hate to RUN), the last thing I want to do is cook. So I have found myself eating fast food more (yuck) and snacking for meals at home. I know, not good and not good for my pants issues.

So today is the first day of my eating better pledge. I guess as long as I at least have this on my mind and make a better effort it will help. At least I can tell myself that. What I know I need to do is exercise more. But like I said, I am running around all the time doing so much, it s difficult to actually find time to exercise. But yesterday I actually put in my 2 mile walking DVD and did that program. Proud of me!!

So here's to all the busy women I know. Take time for yourself, eat better today and hopefully more pants in the crowded closet will fit!!!

2008-08-02T04:59:00.001-07:00

Menopause the Musical

2008-07-24T16:46:00.000-07:00

A friend of mine at work organized a night out for some of her friends to see Menopause the Musical. If you have not seen it, it is a hoot. Several of us went. It was crazy when we reached the lobby of the theater, it was a sea of baby boomer women!!! In fact, several of us ran into other friends who were there for the show.

I really was not sure how this play was set. All I knew it was about the dreaded Menopause! Well it was great. The play centered around four women who meet in a department store and soon form a friendship over sharing their various experiences with menopause or "the change". I believe most of the audience laughed the entire show! It was great. Not only was I laughing at the wonderful actresses but I was also laughing at myself and how much I related to so many of the issues they shared with us.

You know, they say laughter is the best medicine. Well, last night was a great dose of just that. If you were feeling a little low or may have had some doubts about what you have or am going thru, last night put an end to that. It plainly showed that all walks of life experience so many of the same things when going thru the change. It is great to realize you are not going crazy. In fact, today when I could not remember something, I just had to laugh to myself and think about a scene in the play about memory loss. Oh well, it is all part of the CHANGE!

If you have not seen the play, check out their web site and see if it is coming to a city near you. Their site is www.menopausethemusical.com for complete show listings. It is a great reason to get some girlfriends together and have some fun. I have to say there were a few men there. If they had a great sense of humor I am sure they enjoyed it too.

Menopause the Musical - it truly is a hilarious celebration of women and the change!

Shouldn't the intent be to do without medications etc

2008-07-20T14:42:00.000-07:00

It seems more and more people I meet are on medication of some sort for an ailment that could go away if the person would only diet, eat right, exercise, etc. But many people at work, and those I meet out take a pill and live with the problem. What is wrong with this picture.

I had a boss once who, after a meeting on providing programs at work that encouraged people to accept one another as they are, value diversity etc., say to me, "Diane, isn't the intent here to someday not need these programs?" Wow, I thought, how true that is, but all we do is go on and on for years with all these programs and never seem to make any progress. But these programs go on and on and cost more and more. Just like those who think, oh, I have high blood pressure, or I don't feel well. They take expensive medications and never seem to get better, just tolerable. Yet, if they stopped smoking, eating the wrong foods, etc, they may actually rid themselves of the problem. Wow, what a novel idea, actually change your lifestyle so you don't need the medications!

I was a working mother. I had an approach with my daughter that some may have thought if they just happened to witness my comments for the first time, think I was not very caring. But when ever she had a little sniffle, or wasn't quite feeling top notch, I would say, oh, you are o.k., you are not sick. You will feel much better soon, etc. I did not buy into, oh you are going to get sick, don't you feel worse, etc. And you know what, my daughter was very seldom sick. Some children we knew, on the other hand, whose mothers were always pushing meds down them for some ailment were sick much more than Melanie. As I have learned the power of positive thinking, I realized I did just that with my daughter. And all along I just thought it was an over committed working mother who could not take on another issue!

So, if you get an inkling you may be getting sick, STOP, say you are not and will not get sick and change your attitude. Change your lifestyle, attitude and heal yourself. Why give your hard earned money to a pharmacy when you could take that money and purchase nice clothes, go out for an evening etc. As I believe, our intent should always be to live without the medications, etc and have a life that is great.

Women who inspire me.

2008-07-19T05:24:00.000-07:00

Of course there are those women who are famous who inspire me . . . Louise Hay (positive thinking), Ellen (her humor), Tori (her courage), etc. I can go on and on. But it is my friends and everyday women who are most inspiring and keep me going.

How can you not be inspired by women like Carol, who took a leap of faith, quit her job of 25 years and followed her dream. Or Angela who is so at peace and gains strength and inspiration from her faith every day that she is so poised and graceful. And then there is my stepdaughter who is probably the best mom I have ever witnessed and the greatest person despite all the challenges she faced growing up. I can go on and on. Everyday I am touched by a strong, inspirational woman.

Just the other night I was among some very awesome women. They have willingly and enthusiastically agreed to work with Kim and I on a dream of bringing together a group of women for a charity cause. They are all so awesome - Sabrina is so creative, Debi is so connected and Keta is so funny and has such a great attitude. And of course Kim inspires me everyday with her strong will and character yet caring and loving nature. You know you don't need to buy books or tapes, just look around you and you can find such awesome women everyday in so many ways who can inspire you.

I ran into a business associate the other day at a conference, we see one another about once a year. Her daughter has cancer, but she is very upbeat and keeps going with an attitude of winning this fight. How can you not be inspired by that. She never has a negative word or attitude about anything. Many who complain about trivial things need to take a lesson from her. She finds joy in every day.

We have two choices everyday - will you be positive or negative about your day, life or your thinking. Either "you have to do something - like live that day" or you "will do things, get to do an event and use your talents or just accomplish a lot in that day" The attitude selected will determine your success or not. Like today, I am going to accomplish a LOT! This blog was at the top of my list and I am about to mark that off. I am so excited about today, even the piles of laundry! Everything is an accomplishment each day. Look around you there is so much to be excited and happy about. Learn the SECRET today. I have and it has made the biggest difference in my life, just like all the awesome women I know who inspire me everyday in so many ways. Have a great weekend.

Change your attitude and change your life.

2008-07-17T09:57:00.001-07:00

Have you ever noticed how when one person gets upset and complains that many people around them will begin to take on that attitude? I witnessed that this week. I noticed so many women at a recent event who were so negative about their surroundings. When I see that I so often wonder how their life must be. In looking further you often find they are not happy in pretty much anything in their life. And you wonder why. If you have such a negative attitude about everything around you, most likely everything will follow that line of thought.

I try and make a concentrated effort most days to look for the better, smile and say something nice instead of negative. Most often, things really turn around to the positive for me. For instance, I was very upbeat and friendly to the hotel desk when asking for a delayed checkout time. Well, he said, that day was going to be a challenge, but yes, I could have what I requested. That kind, friendly attitude also got some extra charges taken off my bill. I questioned it, asked for some clarification, in a very nice manner, and after our discussion, the clerk offered to take some of it off. And that was something she did not have to do. How great is that.

Don't get me wrong. I encountered several wonderful upbeat women this week. They are so positive and have such amazing lives. And I believe that is why. They seek out the good, they give so much of themselves and they are so delightful to be around. How could anything go wrong for them? My wish is that those who are so negative, take a lesson.

Changing your attitude and outlook can really change your day. It certainly has changed mine.
That is why I love sites like the Secret and John Assaraf. They are so upbeat and encourage success in everyone.

Kim and I have witnessed so many people and successes based on this simple theory. Our good friend, Kathy Seibert, who we have mentioned as a big inspiration to us lived this way and was such a wonderful example and inspiration to everyone she met. We still, now that she is gone, bring her up in conversation as an example of just how much this can impact your life.

I love the little item we have on our site - Seven Ways to Restart Your Day. Some things to think about if you are about to let something get you off to the wrong start for the day.

As many of you know, I have a difficult time reading entire books, I just can't keep that focus, but as I go through magazines, and self help books, as well as the Internet, I find so many inspiring items that I reflect back on when I need a push in the right direction. Check out this short item I just mentioned above or looking into sights like the secret or Louise May. Attitude can make a difference!

It never seems to fail ...

2008-07-15T07:10:00.000-07:00

It never seems to fail, every time I go out of the house, hotel room, etc, and don't take the time to get all fixed up, I run into someone I know!!! Ahhhh. I, as a rule, always look presentable when I leave for an errand, work etc. In fact my friends call me the accessory queen, everything matches down to the accessories! But just that one time I don't put it all together, I run into someone.

I am at a conference this week. Since my daughter and I came out a few days early at our own expense, I did not think many with the conference would be here. At the hotel I have access to the complimentary floor. I got up early, we are in California and I am still on east coast time in regards to my sleeping. Since it was so early, and I thought "surely there will be very few people up there and no one I know" I put on my jogging suit, glasses and went up for coffee etc.

Well, it never seems to fail, when I do just that I run into people I know. I had several women recognize me and say hi. I could not believe so many were here already, and they were all dressed and ready for the day! And the worse part was that a few who I had only met briefly before said they recognized me!!! Recognized me looking so awful, ahhh, I really hated that.

But you know I have to laugh, I thought about that all day. Everyone was so nice, just wanting to connect and say hi and never acted like they even noticed how awful I looked, at least I felt like I did. Just goes to show, before you leave the house be prepared to run into someone you know. If you don't look your best the chances are you will run into someone you know And if you are really craving running into an old boyfriend, an old friend etc, look your worse and chances are you just might!

I am going up for coffee this morning, I am not working today, but I am still going to get ready, hair, contact lens etc before venturing up for coffee. The room will probably be empty!

When women get together . . .

2008-07-13T08:49:00.000-07:00

My best friend Kim always says, when strong women get together unbelievable things can happen ( or something like that, not an exact quote). But her point is that women as a group can be a powerful force! When a group of women with a focus and purpose get together, you can really hear them roar!!!

Women have such big hearts don't we? We give and give and give. Oftentimes to the benefit of so many but ourselves. I am so awestruck when I meet women who do so much and are so positive. We have choices to make everyday and if we make them with a positive attitude, so much more can be accomplished and we benefit too.

I am currently at a conference of women in California. In fact it is a conference of women who are employed by the federal government, some civilian and some military - FEW.org. Where else could you find such devoted and giving women!!! There are women here who are doing unbelievable things for others and this country. Most of what they do will go unseen and unknown by many in this country. But they do what they do because they believe and are doing what they think is right etc. There are also many women here looking for inspiration from them and others. It is a time for women to get together, celebrate many accomplishments and for others to be inspired by them.

It is exciting to go to conferences and be part of the positive energy it can create. I hope I can be just a part of that positive energy. I will be on a panel Monday and will do my part to inspire and encourage the other women here to follow their dreams and believe in what they do.

The women here this week are part of a large machine that make this country operate. I am proud to meet and know so many of these strong wonderful women. For those coming through the ranks and new to this and any other large agency/company, look to those successful and positive women who will gladly mentor you.

When women get together . . . there is laughter, fun, hard work, encouragement, love, sisterhood, sharing, support, and so much more Enjoy and inspire whenever you get the opportunity. Be positive and be part of a movement in this world to create positive energy, we need it.

July 4th Weekend!

2008-07-05T05:16:00.000-07:00

Isn't July 4th the best. It is during the summer so you have great opportunities to celebrate outside. My favorite place. It is a great holiday that we all should reflect upon this year and be thankful to all those men and women who work so hard to ensure our Independence.

This country is the greatest, yet I think so many take it for granted. So many generations have made this such a wonderful country. Each has worked hard in its own way to ensure we are a great and powerful country. But it has not been until recently that I am starting to worry about the future of this country. Are we, or the current and up and coming generations been raised to be too materialistic to look beyond the things they want and sell us out as a country. Nothing as far as I am concerned will ever replace hard work and independence! A friend of mine told me years ago, she felt we only owed our children two things, an education and the talents and lessons to be independent. Oh how true, but if we give our children everything will they be that? If our country gives and gives who will be the workers of tomorrow? My generation is a very self made generation and our children have such great benefits from it. I just hope it does not impair their independence.

On this 4th of July weekend, spend time with friends and family, and celebrate the wonderful gift we have as a nation - independence. Happy 4th of July. Diane

Best Decision Ever Made

2008-06-29T06:31:00.000-07:00

I was called by a local magazine the other day and while talking to the writer, she mentioned she was writing a column on - What was the best decision, or recent change you have made? Wow at 53 that is a difficult question to answer. After going thru so many stages of my life, how can you answer just one thing? There are so many things I have done that were the best decision. There are the classics; went to college, made career decisions, got married, had a child, moved, etc. How do you say what was best? Of course I don't want to downplay the most important people in my life and they not think everything I do concerning them is not important.

But at this point in my life, my decisions, I have to be honest, center more around me. I feel like I have given all I have to give to the others in my life. How many nights did I stay up late after everyone was asleep to pursue a little hobby etc? How many times did I go with out, either a item, event or luxury, so others could have? Sound familiar as a mother? I do not regret a thing, but I feel like now is my time, and I guess that is the best decision I have made, to put me first. And in many ways I don't, because I do so many things that others are still reaping a benefit from me and my work, but at least my days and nights are planned around what I want to do. And with each passing day there is less and and less guilt about putting me first. What a great feeling.

So at this time, starting the Bikinis and Bifocals business was my best decision or change. It was my dream and everything that evolves around it is what I want to do. How fun. My calendar is so full and it is 99% things I want to do, not events or things I have to do for someone else!

I have to admit, I can see more and more why many women make major career changes, or get divorced at this stage in life. The 50's are the greatest, it is freedom. It is the stage where decisions can be made for you, and the hell with everyone else. I can truly see why women at this stage stay the heck with a marriage that does not give them what they want. Is it that this age is the ultimate stage of freedom? Freedom from being responsible for others, freedom from guilt and the freedom to do what you want to do. Some women may not understand how I feel, but I think there are many out there that do.

Follow your dreams, it is never too late.

Just when you are about to quit - DON'T

2008-06-19T06:09:00.000-07:00

Many great people have said, right before their greatest victories or successes they were about to quit, but for some reason kept going. So many people have ideas or dreams and give up too soon before they may have made them reality.

I have read many items such as the above, but have not had them hit home until this past year. I too have dreams and hopes and work very hard to make them reality. But I have to admit, there are days I want to quit. But, isn't it great when you get some encouragement out of the blue! It just takes a little for me and then I am fired up. Refueled to keep going. I guess the most difficult thing for me in life is my husband and his pessimistic outlook on life. Ahhhh, some days he makes me want to crawl in a hole and not come out. He is the Chicken Little of Kentucky. The government will be broke in 20...., the stock market fell so and so points today, and on and on. Dwelling on the negative, I think, is not healthy. Don't get me wrong, I love that man, he is a good father and husband. But he is too much into reality for me!! Or is it reality. IT may be his, but it is not mine. There are some days I say ignorance is bliss, if I don't know that something may fail, I keep going and it succeeds!

I am the dreamer and refuse to stop dreaming. I know there are days I want to give up on my dreams but lucky for me I get little signs along the way to keep going. I thank anyone and everyone who ever gives me an encouraging word, and sometimes you don't realize you have.

I heard several months ago, new businesses fail in the first two years. I refuse to be part of that statistic. Kim and I are so positive about what we are doing and believe in it. I think that is a big part of success, believing in yourself when no one else does. And that is difficult I know, believe me, how I know.

If you find yourself about to quit on something you are pursuing, stop and think about what you want and why. Go back to why you are doing it and keep that in the forefront. Also, don't miss an opportunity to get out and meet others, you never know when an idea or opportunity will come your way.

I just picked up a little newsletter we receive in the mail and there was an article about Louise Hay! If you don't know who she is, she is the mother of positive thinking and affirmations. It is great to see this type philosophy being written up in a newsletter that typically has items about medicines, stock and other money investments, inventions etc. It seems everyone is starting to realize in order to change anything in our life, we change our way of thinking. Not sure if my husband ever will, but that is another blog!!

I just got a very complimentary email about my blog. That was so great and has me re-energized to work even harder towards my dream. Don't stop dreaming - have a great day.
Diane

"Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go."

We are a Group that is Forgotten

2008-06-16T14:32:00.000-07:00

More and more each day I am so convinced Kim and I did the right thing creating Bikinis and Bifocals. I just wish I had more time to devote to this and what we stand for. It seems so many days that we are a group, women in our 50's who are totally forgotten by so many.

I was watching TV the other day and they mentioned a product for 50 and over and the next scene was a couple who were older than baby boomers, probably late 70's, very gray etc. They were not what I view as over 50! Then you look at magazines, TV etc and everyone else is 20! I feel like we are a lost group, not really with an identify. We are no longer staying up late at night like we did in our 20's and 30's, but we are not to the point of assisted living either!

It is rather frustrating, I feel like some are saying, act your age, but what is that? It sure isn't sack dresses and frumpy lifestyle for me. Nor is it for many women I know who are in their late 40's, 50's and into their 60's. We are still working, very, very active and look great.

I love a magazine called MORE. I have met women who have not heard of it. I tell them, it is among all the magazines for the 20 somethings, but it focuses on women over 40. It is great and it has a great deal of info for women in our age group. Thanks for recognizing what we need etc.

It seems that those of us in our late 40's and in our 50's avoid events etc for seniors until we are well into our late 60s. We are a group that does not want to be viewed as old. You know oftentimes there is a very negative attitude that can go along with being "old" and there are many of us who want to avoid anything negative. It can suck you in, and many of us will avoid those who have negative attitudes about life, health etc.

I love doing things with my younger friends. They have such energy and I can just watch while they are living thru life's events that I am now over, it is great. So why can't there be a category for us in society. Well I guess there is now, it is the Bikinis and Bifocals stage. I don't know about you, but I like my sleep and I don't need any assistance. I want to have a great time and not be viewed as old. Whew, sorry, that was my soapbox time today.

Have fun, enjoy the great weather, and smile, life at this age is GREAT.
Diane

Choices

2008-06-11T16:22:00.000-07:00

Choices. It is so important as a woman today to have choices. It may be something to do with our health, that hormone and menopause thing is a biggie. Or it could be something like skin care, clothing, or where to eat for dinner. But I think having choices, the ability to select what is right for you is so important.

I know there was a time where my groceries, skin care and sometimes my clothes all came from the same store. Just because I had too many demands on my time and it filled the bill. But now that I am older and have more time for me, I want choices and make the right selections for me. We try to find items and info to put on the site that gives our readers that. It is basically Kim and I seeking info to share, but at least it is not one sided. Too often many of the big companies and promoters are just that.

It really concerns me how many women do not look into the various choices about their health. Hormones are such a big concern today. As a woman over 50 I probably did not make the best choices in the past about my health. But over the past 10 years I have tried to do much better in that area. The Internet sure helps. But I have to say probably the best referrals I get are from my girlfriends. My sister called me today about a doctor and I said, let me call Gail, she always knows the best doctors. See, a girlfriend to the rescue. We need to make good choices. Our health is so important.

I have to say I was impressed the other day. An article popped up on my email from More magazine about the latest update on hormone therapy and were they still saying it is not good. I thought o.k., let's see what they say to women now. But I have to say it was honest. It did not mention bio identicals, but it was being honest about the dangers of HRT. Many women do not realize there are choices to their health.

It is always interesting to hear other's stories and their experiences. And it helps you make choices. Now, I have the hormone thing under control, what I need is more info on botox! Have an opinion or info you want to share with other women? Share it on our Talking to Girlfriends forum. It is anonymous and not complex at all like some forums. Very simple, some topics are already established under our major sections, but you can start a new one at any time. It's your choice.

Chic of the Week

2008-06-10T15:18:00.001-07:00

O.K., it's spring and you know how I am about my garden. So again I was in therapy all week!

Good news, however, I was chosen as Chic of the Week!!! Hey cool. A new site I found, Chic Entrepreneur choose me as their feature last week. I was so excited. Check out the site, it is great and another source for women entrepreneurs to connect.

Connecting is what we are all about. I love finding new sites and seeing what other women are doing. Other women are so inspiring to me. Do you ever see others work on a large project that gives back to the community and just read or stand back in awe!? I do. I love women who move out to change a situation or issue they don't like That is what women are all about, not the attention or glory, but taking care of something that needs to be taken care of, right!!

There are so many sites out there that address so many things. And there are sites out there that try and address everything. We are not them. We are not trying to cover a woman's life from cradle to grave. Nope. We are here for women over 40! We want women our age to have the best life ever. This is the best time of life. That is what so many tell me, or I see someone on TV say, and yet there are there many who do not feel this way. Well we are out to change that. There are several sites that are so complex and have so much it is just too much. I don't have the time to spend 5 hours trying to find someone in my category. That is why we have our site bikinisandbifocals. Have an issue about menopause, hormones, looking good over 40 or 50? Check out our site. Those who try to help the babies, the men, the teens, just about everyone just don't seem to know what I want. I think we do.

Look over our site and let us know what you like and don't like. We are getting ready to change a few things to make it easier and user friendly. Enjoy.

Sex and The City - The Ladies are Still Awesome

2008-06-02T17:46:00.000-07:00

Well, like so many other women, my friends and I went to see the new Sex and the City Movie this weekend. What a great movie. You know, many will say they are extreme, but this movie was such a great celebration of all the extreme emotions a woman experiences in a lifetime.
Emotions such as love, heartbreak, joy, and honesty. These extreme emotions caused me to think back on some of my emotional life events. I may not have spent several days in bed over a broken heart, but it did remind me that yes, I, as well as many I know allowed our hearts at one time to be hurt, or at the time we thought broken. But Carrie, as well as myself and others - survived. And as so many of us know, our friends are always there when we need them.
And what about joy such as the birth of a child or something more simply as seeing a friend you did not expect to see! Seeing other women enjoy the emotions of life and friendship was great.
Watching this movie reminded me of all the funny things these women have said and done in the past, and also caused me to think back on all the crazy things my friends and I have done.
I guess one of the best aspects of the movie was it showed how you can age and still look good, want to be sexy, despite dealing with the ups and downs in life. As so many of us are dealing with now, botox or not, and what is age appropriate etc. And did anyone notice, that at the end of the movie, Carrie had her own pair of bifocals?
Love, life, friendship is something to be celebrated. Go see the movie with a friend, I did. Thank you for a great film and promoting the fact that fifty is fabulous and throughout it all, our friends are such an important aspect of our lives!
Tell me what you thought about the movie - click here and share with others.

Sex and the City: The Movie

2008-05-28T17:26:00.000-07:00

Yes, I have had this date on my calendar ever since I found out. What date? The day the new Sex and the City: The Movie comes out, that's what date. I absolutely love that show.

I was just watching some segments from the movie and I had such a wave of remembrances as to why I loved that show. It is such a great depiction of friendship, love, life and so many other events and emotions that have happened in my life. Perhaps not much of mine has had so much glamour, but it has had a lot of deep friendships, love, life, laughter, etc. When you watch something that makes you remember all these great emotions of life, that is a great show/movie.

Some of the issues and characters are a little overplayed at times. But sometimes life can be too. IN fact, when things get really bad, it is often times good to look at others and realize that perhaps things in your life are not so bad, or tragic etc. And it is always good to remember to enjoy life, enjoy your friends and LAUGH at yourself. I think they do a great job of all of this on this show.

Thanks so much for a great series, I have the entire set. I am soooo looking forward to the movie. Bring it on girls, you know how to live life.

Believe and You Will Receive

2008-05-22T05:56:00.000-07:00

As many of you know I am a true believer of the Book THE SECRET and its teachings and philosophies on life. It has made a big impact in my life over the past year.

One aspect is the – Believe and you will receive – approach. There is a lot to be said about that statement. Along with that belief you must have a positive attitude and center your thoughts on the positive aspect of what you want. Something I learned, the hard way, is if you say you want something and then focus your thoughts around the premise – “they probably won’t let me do that, or if they won’t give me that, or all the things that could stop or go wrong with the wish, that the wish will not come true. In fact all that negative energy just blocks your ability to focus and come up with the path to get what you want.

I put this all to test recently. It was not an overnight thing, but I did see the difference between the two approaches. I wanted something very much. I put that on my vision board, out there in my thoughts etc. But I found myself struggling with the negative thoughts of how others may block this, and centering a lot of negative energy on those people and issues. One day during this process I was listening to the book on tape and thought about my mixed message approach. So, I again, thought about what I wanted and every day repeated to myself, this will happen; those who are involved will make sure it will happen and I will get what I want.

Every time something negative crept in my mind about my dream, I acknowledged it and then forgot about it and did not go any further with any negative thoughts. When this happened I changed my thoughts to, it will happen, I believe it will. Well, after a few days, I found I was not bogged down with a lot of negative thought processes and what I did find that over time I started to have some great ideas as to how I could make this dream come true. Things I would have never have thought of if I had been spending all my time and energy thinking about how it was not going to happen. I know this may be hard to understand or realize, but it was a breakthrough for me.

In the car the other day, my husband asked me about the status of this request. He started in on, if they don’t do this, you should …… And all I said was, it will happen, they will do the right thing. When I got in the office that day, I had an email that told me everything I had wanted was approved! It worked and it can for you.
Read or listen to the book The Secret, or watch the DVD. There are so many other books on the market that are similar, and I can give you a number of others to read. But the common theme is ASK, BELIEVE, RECEIVE. This approach can have an impact on everything in your life.

It is not easy, it takes some work on your part to move to that mindset, but it can be done. Your thoughts create your life – create something positive.
Diane http://www.bikinisandbiofcals.com/

The best meal I ever had ...

2008-05-21T06:51:00.000-07:00

Do you ever read something or watch something on tv and later think about how you would have reacted if that question or event had happened to you? That happened to me today, I picked up a new book Kim gave me last night, "Finding Your Own North Star" and have thought about one sentence I read.
It was not such a profound sentence/question, but it did cause me think about myself and past life events.The question the author asked someone was, tell me all the details about what you remember about the best meal you ever had?
Later that day, I thought about that question and started thinking about how I would answer that question. It is funny but every time I started to think about a great meal I have had in my life, I did not first think about the food. I first thought about where it was, a restaurant, a friends home, etc. But after I thought of an event/place where I had a really great meal, the next thing I thought of was not the food, but the people and the moments of that event. Isn't that what it is all about when eating with friends etc? Not just to enjoy the food, but most of all to enjoy the people you are with.
My husband just does not get it when we are in a causal restaurant and there is a t.v. and he spends more time looking at it then paying attention to me. Hey, go sit at the bar alone, you sure don't want to enjoy my company! Or why most times I really don't mind waiting for a table if there is someplace comfortable to wait and I am with someone I enjoy. Hey just more time to talk, relax and enjoy one anothers company. I am on the go so much, moments like this are great.
I love going out with friends, etc to a restaurant. Not just for the food, again that is nice and I want the food to be good, but what I look forward to the most is the time that I can spend with my husband, my children, my friends and not have to worry about the food. We can enjoy our time together while someone else serves the food, takes away the dishes, etc. I so enjoy the relaxing and conversation and of course good food. If I am with someone I enjoy, and the food is good, wow, what a great time. And of course, throw in some good wine and it is perfect.

So when I think about some great meals I have had I think about sitting on an outside deck on St. Thomas, the weather was perfect, the food was great, and Kim and I were having a great time talking, enjoying the view and calling our husbands back home and letting them know how great, and warm it was there. Or the time my mom, sister and daughter were in Mangalino's in Chicago having a huge meal, more than we all could eat, but it was so great being in such a great city with three unbeliveable women that I love dearly. We had such a great time. Or the time Marv and I ate and drank a little too much that when we were leaving a little beach side pub, we walked into the closet instead of out the door!

Do I remember what I had to eat those events and others like it? Yes, I could tell you what we had to eat at all the events I just named and many more like it, but when I think of those great meals, it is the people that I shared them with first and the great time we had before I will recall the food.

I am looking forward to reading more of the book to see what the author would think of my answer to her question.

I got accepted!

2008-05-15T13:24:00.000-07:00

It seems we go through so many stages in life, and many of them put us in a position of requesting something and then waiting to see if we are "accepted." When I started my blog I went to a large blog site that was highly recommended. That site is BLOGHER. I went there, and it is quite a lot to absorb and immediately applied to be listed as a blog on their site. After seeing some blogs that seemed like pretty meaningless items, I thought for sure I would be immediately accepted as a blog on their site. BUT, they turned me down. I was told my site was so new and I had not written on it regularly. WELL, that was all I needed, a little challenge to show them, I did too have a site that was worthy of being listed. So, that began my journey into posting on my blog and getting accepted.

After posting quite regularly for a few months, I thought, again, after looking over BLOGHER, that some were rather thin in substance, that mine should warrant posting on their site. So again, I applied to be "accepted." Well I am glad to tell you now, my blog is listed on several categories on the BLOGHER site! I was accepted!

But isn't that a theme in so many people's lives that they view "being accepted" as such a defining aspect of their self esteem. Not me, I either don't care if someone "doesn't accept" me for me, or I see what ever I did not get as a challenge and go after it with more effort. The way I see it is, it's their loss! A much healthier way to view something like this. Also, it gave me reason to learn more about blogs and improve on mine. Sometimes things should not come instantly, how would you learn more or improve?

Sometimes when I don't get something I wonder if I really wanted it or was I really ready for it. Or right before I get word about something, I may have those moments of self doubt, but then I get over it, and decide, no I want it! And most times it comes about. Self doubts or indecision is o.k., think about, deal with and then put it away. Or like this time, I took a step back, regrouped and came back and won. This is exciting. Kim just said she found a great article that maps out more info about blogs and their impact. Wonder if I can get that on tape! O.k., I will read, I will blog, I will get more things accepted, . . . . . blog on!

Picture Your Day In Your Mind

2008-05-09T03:50:00.001-07:00

I listen to books. I love to read, but just don't have the time to read all the books I would love to read, plus if I sit down long enough to read, it is usually at night and within a few minutes I am falling asleep. The greatest thing for me is now my ipod and books on tape. What a great way to multi-task!

I listen to books in my car on my commute to work. I very seldom listen to the radio anymore, the news and other talk is so negative, why bother. So I listen to books, and often times I listen to the same book over and over again. My favorite is "The Secret." I know, here she goes again, but I just can't get enough of that, it is so positive. There are many other books that give the same message, and I have many of those too, but this one is one I have multiple copies of!

Anyway, yesterday as I was listening, or perhaps half listening, because I had just gotten in my car and was beginning my commute and thinking about all I had to accomplish that day, the woman on the tape said "Image your day in your mind each morning, how you want it to be, what you want, etc." I listened to her for a while and realized, wow, that is so right. Instead of thinking, ahhhh, I have to do this, how am I going to do that. I should start off saying to my myself today I WILL ..... and image a perfect seamless day. I know, Polly Anna, but doesn't it seem that things go better when you are more optimistic about it?

I know I now say, I will get there on time, instead of I'm going to be late, and 99% of the time I get there on time or the time I set for myself. It sure relieves a lot of stress that way. So, today I am going to try it. I will image my day and all the things I will accomplish, instead of letting thoughts in my mind of how and why I won't accomplish them. I will let you know how it goes.
So far, my day has been great, it's Friday!!!!

Mark Your Calendars - May 30!

2008-05-07T17:46:00.000-07:00

I don't know about many of you, but I was so sad the day I heard Sex and the City series was coming to an end. That show is my all time favorite. Some may say they did and said things they wish they had the nerve to do or say, but there were many of us who identified with much of what they said or did. Do you remember 30 something!? There was a time I identified with some of the events they lived thru while on TV, but Sex and the City, that is the best.

I loved their honesty with one another and oftentimes with men. The times they shared with their good friends were priceless. Although the show was about a few baby boomer friends who went through many events and stages of life - there are many lessons younger women can learn from it also.

The reunion movie, and it looks like Big and Carrie's wedding, will be at movie theaters Friday May 30! Get your friends together, have dinner, tell stories on one another, and enjoy the movie together. This is a great opportunity for a girls nite out! We are planning one, although we plan many, but this one will be special. Did I tell you I have a copy of every season!? They came in handy one New Years day when I was too hung over to do anything else. It was great, I cried, ate sweets, and by the end of the day felt better both physically and mentally. Because I knew I too had great friends in my life I loved and made a difference like they did for one another. If you have girlfriends who mean a lot to you, good for you , celebrate and go see the movie. Have fun, I know we will!

I don't wear a bikini!

2008-05-06T18:06:00.000-07:00

I hear this all the time from women when I tell them about our company and web site. They immediately think negatively towards the word “bikinis” and say what they cannot do. This drives me nuts. Why do women do this to themselves? I am the type of person who does not take no for an answer. Yes, I don’t wear a bikini, have not for a long time, but I sure as hell have a bikinis attitude. After all, I can now afford those overpriced drinks at the hotel pool bar; I could not afford them back when I did wear a bikini!

There are days I could just shake many women I meet. Their thought processes are so negative, and it is particularly evident the most negative attitude they have is about themselves. I read a book once, “I’m o.k., you’re not o.k.” Boy what a powerful book in that it so easily explains how others in this world make themselves feel good by making you feel bad or viewing you as bad or less to make themselves feel or look good to themselves. When I came to grips with that, it made the biggest difference to me in understanding I how I have the power to either allow others to define my worth or I define how I view myself. I define my self esteem – not others. So, in my mind I wear a bikini, I may not on my body, but I think I am much sexier than I was when I wore a size 4/6 and had no boobs!

At this age and stage of my life I am so happy, and that makes me feel so much more confident and sexy. As we go around promoting our business, we start to see women slowly understand that they too should have the bikini attitude. They have that power, no one has the power to take that away. We had a young woman the other night tell both Kim and I, “I don’t view the two of you as over 50! That said a lot to us, to me it meant
she viewed us as young at heart, mind and spirit. That to me is such a compliment and says “I am a bikini girl, not a frump!” Women over 50 unite and show others what confidence and life experience can give you. Another reward for me is the money and power to pay for the over-priced drinks at the resort bar, and not give a care. Life is great, wear a bikini!

Blog, Blog, Blog

2008-05-05T15:23:00.000-07:00

I told my daughter once, if someone copies you, it is a compliment. Or perhaps it means you are doing the right thing after all? We started our website over a year ago. On it we have our forum where others can go on and comment. Now, sites I checked out a year ago, who had very little other than a product, now all have blogs or forums. Interesting, I guess we were ahead of the times!

A good idea is worth believing in. I like the idea of a blog. But I don't like the idea of the opinion it is something you have to do everyday. I like variety. If the sun is shining, I will walk thru my yard or spend some time outside. That equates to the fact that for that day I will have less time on the computer. Balance, and sticking to a good idea is the way to go.

We have a blog, and we have a forum, or a blog of everyone. We like to call it Talking to Girlfriends! It is a great place to go and give opinions, tell others about a great product or ask a question. It is catching on and it is great. Blog, Blog, Blog. There is one site I have checked out Blogher, and it is good, took a little while for me to figure it totally out. I won't just blog, unless I have something to say. I have seen some that don't even make any sense. If you have an opinion, tell me, tell us, tell everyone. Go to our site and check it out. I love to hear what others have found that is great.

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Eco Totes - are they real?!

2008-05-01T06:05:00.000-07:00

You know, I like the idea of being concerned about the environment. I started the GO Green section on our website bikinisandbifocals to just give women a few suggestions on doing something that will help the environment. Anything a person does is a help. Use less plastic bags, plastic water bottles, chemicals etc. It seems over the past few years we have somewhat forgotten about the planet.

But the latest thing I thought was good is the eco totes. You know the cheap cloth, or cloth like (is that eco) bags you see everywhere for purchase to use instead of having your purchases put in plastic bags. I have seen these in many groceries and department stores for 99cents. I think it is a great gesture that stores want to make a difference by offering something so cheap.

So since I thought this was a good idea, I went looking on the internet the other day to look for totes etc to put on our site for our readers info. Well, it seems everyone is getting in on the show. There were even “eco totes” that were designer eco totes for hundreds of dollars!! Are they kidding? Some were cheap bags for a high price. So if you see something that is less than a buck and will serve your purpose, buy it. If you avoid using plastic bags, and reuse something that is so cheap, it has to be good for the environment and your pocket book as well. The only thing that appeared to be eco friendly about that designer bag was the color, it was green. I didn’t care for the look, and shouldn’t eco friendly also be eye friendly?

GO GREEN, small steps are steps in the right direction.

Only 2% of Women say they are sexy.

2008-04-29T15:55:00.000-07:00

My husband sent me an email the other day. Along with a dozen other highly intelligent male type emails you see – the theme is all the same sex, beer or some type of crude action. Sound familiar. The other day he sent me one that had a few statistics about male and female views and practices regarding sex or sex related topics. Something that really surprised me was that only 9% of women around the globe consider themselves attractive and only 2% of women say they are sexy. That to me was very sad.

Here we have women everywhere who, I guess, they think they are being honest because they see women being defined by what are on the front of a magazine and then we have the statistic that 94% of men lie about their penis size. Is there any justice in the world? I guess they think the size of their penis may in some way define the level of their sexiness and intelligence. Oh brother.

Hey, it is all about attitudes. On www.bikinisandbifocals.com we define women over 50 as sexy AND attractive. I don’t know about you. But what I know now gives me more confidence and I feel so much better about myself. I feel attractive and sexy. Women of all ages need to feel good about them and appreciate who they are. None of us are magazine models. Not even the magazine models - from what I hear the pictures are touched up, so what is real?! Sexy, fun, attractive is what you define. If you smile, feel good about yourself and project that attitude, others will view you that way.

If 94% of men can LIE about their penis size, we should all be able to muster up some self confidence in something real like ourselves and our appearance! At least that can become reality!

I haven't written lately - I've been in therapy

2008-04-28T16:49:00.000-07:00

Knew that would get your attention. But yes, I haven’t written all weekend because I was in self imposed therapy. I worked in my yard/garden all weekend and loved it and have the achy back to prove it! Last spring I did very little in my yard and regretted it both because the yard did not look its best and two because I love spending time digging and planting and replanting, it is my therapy for my mind. But this spring, with a weekend that was just right, sun shine and temperatures in the 70’s, I decided I was due some mental and physical therapy. It was a great weekend to work in the yard.

Sure I could have done a lot of other things, i.e., write in my blog, work on the site. But I needed the time in my yard and my yard needed me to spend time on it. I don’t know what it is about working in my yard. My mind does not think of all the demands of my day job or issues around the house, it is just my way of creating and escaping. As I replanted some perennials and created a new landscape in one section of my yard, I thought, wow, this is like putting together a still life setting. I want it to look just so. I want this to be a certain theme as I pull up my drive and view the landscape. I love creating in this way. Our yard is one acre and a great deal of flowerbeds of different sizes and variety. Some sun, little sun, lot of sun, we have it all in varying degrees and it is fun to plant and transplant flowers etc to create and improve the looks of the yard.

When I was kid I loved to sew. I made all my clothes. This was an escape for me and very relaxing. I had so many people say to me, how can you do that, sewing is so stressful. Not me, it took my mind off everything but creating something new and exciting. Just like gardening is to me now. It takes my mind off everything. Well, except for that time I had a run in with a manager at work, I came home trimmed some bushes, and before I realized what I had done, I had cut it down to something almost unrecognizable. That bush was that managers blipping head! Well, like I said, yard work is my therapy and it sure made me feel better cutting him down to size!

Do Something Nice - and Don't Tell Anyone

2008-04-23T17:20:00.000-07:00

Seems like there are so many events where they want to publicize people doing good for charity etc. That is nice, but it seems that many are doing it for the notoriety. Why not do something nice for others and don't tell anyone about it. Don't even take credit with the person or person you do the good deed for! If more people did this, won't the world be an awesome place?

Does everything have to be rewarded? Pass on nice comments, perform a nice gesture, pay for some one's lunch without them knowing it etc. Do something nice with out anyone knowing it was you and see how awesome it feels.

I read that in a book I have. It is a great book, Don't Sweat the Small Stuff. It suggests that rather than diluting the positive feelings by telling others about your own act of kindness, by keeping it to yourself you get to retain ALL the positive feelings.

On Ellen yesterday she has challenged others to read Dr. Wayne Dyer's book and to perform random acts of kindness - without any promise of money or fame. I like that. Go and do nice. If more people did this, what a great world this would be. Be nice, feel good inside and don't tell anyone. Just let those who receive enjoy, and you will have your silent pleasure within.

Thanks Ellen for the challenge and putting this book and other positive thoughts out there for us.
What have you done nice today? Don't tell anyone!

Who Do You Tell About Your Dreams?

2008-04-22T15:42:00.000-07:00

I was a speaker at a local college today and had a great time. It is so nice to see young adults exploring the world, seeking information that may help them, and their interest in what others may have to say. It was fun talking to the students and other adults today. Today was worth taking a days vacation from my day job and volunteering at this local event. Giving back to the community is such a charge.

One comment that got a strong reaction from the crowd today was the one that there are many who will tell you your dream won't work or how you will not succeed. Those people you should never have coffee with twice! Everyone seemed to get the value in those words.

But you know, isn't it true. Those who tell us we won't succeed, we really should not seek their advise or company again. Because they will convince us not to try and not to go after those dreams. I know who those people are in my life, do you? I've learned who they are so well now, that I don't tell them my dreams at all. Why give them that power. I seek out those who will encourage me and believe in me, just as I believe in me.

It is sad that those who will tell you how you will not succeed are often those who love you very much, and they are doing this for your good! Ha. I think they are the ones who are afraid of trying something new and daring and don't want you or anyone else to attempt anything they would not. So stay away, don't tell them your dreams. There are those you can have coffee with, tell them about your dreams and you are safe. They will marvel at your ideas and encourage you to go for it! Have coffee with these people more than once, they are important.

I read a quote the other day, it said, "If you have the power to dream, you have the power to make that dream come true". What a great way of looking at your dreams and your goals. Be positive about what you want, believe in your dreams and choose carefully who you tell your dreams to.

Am I ready for another change or something new?

2008-04-20T16:30:00.000-07:00

Change is good and we need change. You would like those who are saying this lately with the political campaigns have just thought of a new item for thought. Well that idea as to change is good and people need change has been around for a long time.

I have been thinking about a change a lot lately. Every time I open a book, an email or a new website, I find myself reading something about life changes and being honest with ones self. Is someone trying to tell me something? It is a well know fact I am not happy in my day job. It is tough doing some things that you know are good and help others but then on the other hand it is difficult some days to get thru when you know that those in charge do not value what I have to give. Most days that is o.k., because I define me and my value, but so many days lately I feel like these last few months I have left there are such a waste of me and my time. I am really ready for a change. I love so many things I do, but don't like when people waste my time. Time is such a valuable thing and I Cherise mine each day.

I love Bikinis and Bifocals, http://www.bikinisandbifocals.com/ and what it is doing for other women, and the website and the exciting new things I am learning. I guess I just feel like I am in a holding stage and want out. Patience, and what is it I have to remind myself, delayed gratification is good. But sometimes a delay in moving out on my dreams and other things that I want to do is very difficult to hold back.

I love change, learning new things and stepping out of my comfort zone. Hmmm, perhaps there is something else out there for me to do for the next 23 months. Walk away, I would in a heartbeat; have patience and reap the rewards of all my hard work in 23 months, I think I can hold on just a little longer, but will keep my eyes open for something new all the same. Change is good!

If I can fix it, why shouldn't I?

2008-04-18T05:45:00.000-07:00

When our children needed their teeth straighten we paid for the dentist, if they wanted the latest hair style, we paid for it, and if there was any other medical item they required, we made the sacrifice to help them. Now as women over 50 and wanting to look our best, if we can fix something on us, why shouldn't we?

First of all, I must say, you have to be happy with you and who you are. Nothing material will make you happy. For those of us who know that or have learned that, we are the lucky ones.

So for those of us who have something about us we want to fix, why shouldn’t we? Women over 50 today are redefining aging. I love it. I am doing my part with Bikinis and Bifocals, and our site www.bikinisandbifocals.com

So, why shouldn’t we now pay the price of a good hairstylist and get a hair style that is current instead of what we wore in the 70’s. It is amazing to me how many women my age won’t even do something so basic as this. Fix it, you can, so why shouldn’t you. I love it when people say, well, I don’t’ care, I don’t have to look at it, referring to hair, eye glasses etc. Well, you know what, I have to look at you/it and I don’t like ugly.

Come on ladies, if you can fix, why shouldn't you? There are some great books out now like “How Not to Look Old” and “redesigning 50”, to name a few. We have some books and other items listed on the site on this subject.

There was a time when I purchased most of my skin care at the grocery store. But now, I can afford the better items and I am worth it. I am worth a better hair stylist, etc. Define the style you are, i.e., classic, casual, romantic, etc and chart your course from there. Whatever it is, you don’t have to look dated or even worse older than you are! It saddens me when I meet women who look much older than me, but in reality they are much younger than me. The looks on their faces when they realize this is sometimes very sad.

I am not suggesting plastic surgery. But, if you can afford it, find the best/certified plastic surgeon you can and you go girl. But there are so many other things such as a haircut, teeth bleaching, update wardrobe, make up, diet etc., that can help make you look great and even younger! None of these are extremely expensive and can make a big difference in how you feel about your self and the years ahead. Found something that has made a difference to you? Let us know at our TALKING TO GIRLFRIENDS forum on the site.
Look around, you have fixed so many things over the years, now if there is something on you that needs fixing or updating, why not do it!

Smile, people will wonder what you are up to!

2008-04-17T05:51:00.000-07:00

Remember that old slogan? As I practice my positive attitude choice everyday, I have started to make a focused effort everyday to walk around with a smile on my face. Walking thru the streets of Chicago yesterday I realized that I was probably the only person on the street with a smile on my face. (Don’t get me wrong I absolutely love Chicago and the people, it was rush hour and I was going the opposite direction than those going to the train station). And that felt great. But I also thought, I wonder if people are thinking, what is she up to!

It amazes me when you speak to people say at the cab stand in the morning etc and they look at you like you are from a foreign land. I know, everyone is not a morning person like me, but people need to learn to put a smile on their face with their makeup, when they shave etc. Hey, most people it makes them look younger, isn’t that enough to make you smile?!

I make a point to watch the people on the street last night while waiting outside the theater for my sister and mother. Boy, some people are really ugly when they don’t smile and they look sooooo unhappy. I guess if they knew how awful they looked they might try and change their expressions. Some looked so sad or even to the point that I thought boy, wonder what her story is, she looks like she’s been abused. But, in all reality it is probably the mode these people have moved in forever. You frown when its cold or the wind blows. Try smiling and it doesn’t seem so bad. Try smiling more and everything seems to change.

O.K., here goes Polly Anna again, I know, this seems so unreal. But it works. Attitude can make such a big difference in your day. If you start it with a smile on your face before walking out the door, I bet your day will go better. How can you be in a bad mood or say something cross if you have a smile on your face? Think about it, the people who have the negative words or cynical comments all the time, do they ever smile? The ones I know don’t. So, Smile, and make them wonder just what is she up to?

Enjoy Being Alone - Hooray for an empty nest!

2008-04-14T16:34:00.000-07:00

I came across an article the other day about empty Nester's and all their problems. I thought how sad, that there are women who have depended on someone else for all their life's purpose and never put anything into their own future.

Don't get me wrong. I believe in doing all we can for our children. But I also believe and have believed that I deserve a life and time too. That is why when my last one graduated from high school and went off to college I was sad that she had grown up and all those childhood events were over, but happy for her and her new life as well as happy for me and my new life! I think an empty nest is a great gift for all our hard work.

I can't image not having any type of life's purpose other than caring for your children. If you raise them right they should be living without a majority of your help well before they go off to college. After all prior to that they are driving, making some major decisions or choices without you looking over their shoulder, etc. So why are these women so lost when they leave for college?

I have told my daughter many times, "don't depend on someone else to make you happy. You be happy and others will fall into your life". The media, society, schools make women feel like they must depend on others for their happiness. That is all wrong. Why not be happy with yourself and be happy spending time with yourself alone. If you have that type life, you won't have a problem with the empty nest.

Sure I was sad when my daughter left, but happy that she was moving on to this next step and not depending on me. In a few months she showed me she could handle most things and that gave me even more freedom and enjoyment.

I now love having the freedom to not go home right after work, or should I say rush home right after work. I can make as many stops, shop, etc and I don't even have to tell anyone. Even when my husband is home, he is another one who is independant, so he does not depend on me at a certain hour etc.

After 50 life has really gotten great for me. This is a great time of life to do so many things I want to do. It comes with so many rewards and so many opportunties. I found it so sad that someone else was writing another article about the poor empty nesters. Oh brother, they should be talking to and writing about happy, well adjusted empty nesters. Now that I reflect on this, it is just another reason and meaning of purpose I have for http://www.bikinisandbifocals.com/ What a way to show women we have so much to do and live for. Connect with women and make a difference in your life.

Empty nester! That's right and loving it.

Louisville, Kentucky, is a great city

2008-04-12T17:57:00.000-07:00

Today is Thunder over Louisville. For those of you who have never seen this, it is the greatest fireworks show - ever. I have been several years and every time I have attended, I have loved the show and been very proud of this city.

Sure, it is a festival with cheap food, crowds, and long hours waiting. But it is so much fun to watch and well worth the wait.

This is the beginning of the Derby Festival. Three weeks of fun leading up the the Kentucky Derby. What fun, so much to do, not enough time to attend it all. It is a great way to find out what Louisville is all about. Southern hospitality.

Not long ago I visited a north east city, I won't mention the name, but while at an event I could not get over how rude and unfriendly people were. My friend and I said we just expect southern hospitality everywhere. But we found that not everyplace is as friendly as Louisville.

I have had so many people tell me over the years how friendly everyone is here. I think we all take it for granted. In my neighborhood everyone waves at every car that drives by. It is great that people are so friendly. There have been days I did not wave and felt as if I had committed a crime.

I hope all who came out in the cold weather this year enjoy the show and the people of Louisville, Kentucky.

Your Voice versus Electronics

2008-04-10T15:06:00.000-07:00

My daughter is off at college and just never seems to have time to call, email etc. I asked her the other day, if I text message you, will you reply? She said "yes".

Well, I just have not had time to figure that out. That is my next electronic goal, but you know, no type of electronic communication will ever take the place of a person's voice.

Don't get me wrong, I love the Internet, email etc. With such a busy life, it makes things so fast. But many times, after the fifth email of trying to understand what another person is communicating, I pick up the phone. Talking with a person is so rich and can tell you so much more and can clarify so much more.

Just like hearing my daughter's voice. When she does call me, and believe me it is rare, I know it is her by the caller ID. As a mother, my first reaction is, "I pray she is o.k." Then when I answer the phone, I can tell instantly by the sound of her voice and what she says if things are o.k. There is that "I need money" voice, there is that "you weren't available when I called earlier" voice, and that "hey, just calling voice." Is it female or a mother's intuition? I don't know, but hearing a person's voice is so important to me.

My best friend and I email everyday. But nothing takes the place of her and I sitting around having a glass of wine and talking. We solve so many ills of the world that way and grow even closer. Laughing and sharing our thoughts, worries and hopes is so much fun. Electronic communications is fine, but just for messages, set a date for meeting etc.
If you really want to connect with a person, talk to them.

I have found that many people are so busy that if you ask them more than one question in an email, forget it. They will miss much of the message, they will focus on one question, and answer it, go on to the next email. And the stream of emails begins to get the answers to all my questions.

Relationships are ruined by emails, people are misunderstood. Or people can be just cruel in an email. But discussing in person can result in a very different outcome.

I love email, but I love my sister's voice, my mom's, my husband's, my granddaughter's sweet voice and so many others. Conversation is such an enjoyment and a much better way to connect to others. Heaing the voice of someone you care about can just brighten your day, it does mine.

Again, if my daughter is reading this, phone home! I just want to hear your voice!

My Independant Daughter

2008-04-10T14:52:00.001-07:00

As a mother I have had many challenges and worries while raising my daughter. A woman who served as a mentor to me once said that the best thing we can do for our children is teach them to be independent. Well I did succeed on that level. My daughter is very independent.

But with that comes a price. She ever calls, she never emails. And as her mother, I don't want to pry in her life, but I would like to know what is going on in her life.

I am grateful she deals with her problems and once in a while tells me about them later, but not very often. She lives a very steady, responsible life for a very young person. But, hey, moms want to help once in a while. She has grown up to be a very private person. Me, I am an open book. Ask me about my life, I will tell you.

I see and hear about so many people who are still taking care of their adult children. Some many years older than my daughter. That is so sad. Those who are not raised to take care of themselves will just turn out to be a burden on the parent, society, and an employer someday etc.

Tough love. That is tough. Pushing a child out to do something and making them stand behind what they promise is important. I have to say, I am very proud of my daughter, whatever she is doing, although she has not called me to tell me about it! I believe in her and she knows that. Believing in them, and their mistakes is important.

Just one thing, to my daughter, if you read this, phone home!

Why is it some hot fashion items are for one body type?

2008-04-09T16:56:00.000-07:00

Typically it seems most fashions look best on tall skinny women. Some styles look like they will only look good on someone 5'7" and 95 pounds. But the latest item must have been designed for the short woman in mind. I am talking about these short jackets with the short 3/4 sleeves.

They are so cute, but so many women I have seen wearing these look horrible. So short women, rejoice, the latest fashion trend is going to make you look great and better than the rest of us.

A woman at work had on one of the latest jackets the other day, it looked great, but she is shorter etc. So for once the fashion trend is not for tall pencil thin women, it is for a body type that most often gets overlooked when the latest trends come about. I am a tall woman, so most of these jackets do nothing for me. I just hope I can find a longer jacket this year.

I love fashion and love to shop for clothes. But I refuse to purchase something and wear it just because it is in style. It is sad when you see someone wear something that is the latest item, but it horrible on them. I know my limitations. So, for now I will leave these jackets for my shorter, petite friends and will envy them rather than they envy me this season.

Looking forward to some bright spring colors again!

Is a Woman's Car an Extension of her Purse?

2008-04-05T13:23:00.000-07:00

I recently stepped into a conversation that included two young men who were talking about their girlfriends. These two men are very disciplined and routine. They were joking about how messy their girlfriends cards were. "I can't understand it" they were both saying.

While they were discussing this, I have to admit, my thoughts turned to my car, and what the inside of it looked like. Would it pass the test with these two young men? NO.

I thought about my car and what these men had said and I have come to a conclusion why many women have cars with a wide variety of things in it. Our cars are an extension of our purses.

Think about it. We carry a lot of important "stuff" in our purses. As we raise our children they expect us to have whatever they may need at the time in our purse, our husbands depend on us to have what they need in our purse and we carry everything we just may need in our purse.

In fact, the other night, my husband asked me if I had a needle. I said, no. And later thought, what would make him think I carry a sewing needle around with me? But you know, everyone thinks we have what they need in our purses!

So, doesn't it seem logical that our cars are an extension of our purses. An extra sweater, or an extra pair of shoes. These are things we cannot carry in our purses. Or a box, or a cup, or perhaps a poncho, or an old magazine, etc.

As I glanced thru my car that night before I went home, I decided that is the best explanation why there are so many items in my car. So many things I need to take out and put away, but these are also things myself or someone else may need! Sounds like the best reason not to clear out my car! Hmmm, I wonder if there is a sewing needle in my car?

You have to find humor and a reason for everything!